Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put her on the pill!!

Horrendous advice.

why?

Read about the horrors it wreaks on the body of using the pill for years.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put her on the pill!!

Horrendous advice.

why?

Anonymous wrote:If it's whiteheads, it could be dairy intolerance.

Not a thing. Dairy keeps skin healthy.
There is a thing as lactose intolerance, but that's unrelated to infected sebaceous glands.

Proper diet, exercise, proper hygiene, and some Pro-Activ.
It's easy.

Anonymous wrote:Put her on the pill!!

Horrendous advice.

If it's whiteheads, it could be dairy intolerance. Seriously, have her not eat any dairy for 6 weeks. It's easier to do this nowadays because so many vegan options. Anyway, I had this problem - and cutting out dairy totally cleared up my skin. Also, I felt so much better -I didn't even realize that my abdominal issues were not normal, that they were a problem until they were gone!

I feel for op. My 21 year old didnt like to pop her zits. Yes, I know you are supposed to leave them alone but when there is a big white pimple on her face staring at you begging to be popped it’s yucky.

Anyways, she has been on spironalactone for a year and it has been a gamechanger. Highly suggest you gently suggest it. Her face has cleared up unbelievably, low side effects, nothing like accutane

Anonymous wrote:You set up a power struggle and you can’t win. You can’t convince her. You can’t force her. She’s got bodily autonomy and the more you push, the more she will pull. You need to shut up. That’s the only move you have.

All I could think when I read the OP's posts is, jesus, how can the OP not realize her insistence that this is an issue needing fixing is probably making her daughter resist fixing it?

You set up a power struggle and you can’t win. You can’t convince her. You can’t force her. She’s got bodily autonomy and the more you push, the more she will pull. You need to shut up. That’s the only move you have.

Put her on the pill!!

I bet she cares and the stress during college and crazy hours could make it worse. Oral contraceptives are helpful in more ways than one!

Anonymous wrote:Assuming she has decent hygiene and is keeping herself clean, if it doesn't bother her, why do you want her to be bothered by it?

Is it cystic and you are concerned about scarring or what is your concern?

because even if we try to convince ourselves otherwise, appearances do matter. People - whether sub-consciously or consciously - will judge others on their appearance. Are you dishelved looking? overweight? slovenly looking? how is the skin? She needs to start looking for internships soon - i want her to have every advantage and not letting something like bad skin stand in her way. i don’t want bad skin to stand in the way of any social relationships.



It is not cystic. It is whiteheads. very obvious whiteheads

What did the dermatologist suggest? Sometimes, the OTC stuff simply doesn’t work. Is her acne getting worse? I would get another derm appointment for Thanksgiving break.

Assuming she has decent hygiene and is keeping herself clean, if it doesn't bother her, why do you want her to be bothered by it?

Is it cystic and you are concerned about scarring or what is your concern?

my college student just doesn’t seem to care about her acne. when she was home, i could suggest doing masks, topicals. we took her to a dermatologist. she was never into getting rid of her acne. she was okay with it despite my efforts.

now at college - i thought it would be getting better (she would care more about not having acne) but no.

is there anything i can do? i’ve been keeping my mouth shut for now.