Anonymous wrote:Is grandparent in the US? Only Louisiana has limited forced heirship. So if in any other state he can disinherit the adopted grandchild without any restriction. Sounds like an awful choice but there you go.

"Disinherit"?

With no forced heirship, as you put it, there is no need to 'disinherit." To disinherit you initiate a legal proceeding to subvert forced heirship. This is the US in 2024. People aren't disinheriting grandchildren, adopted or not. You just don't give them anything in the will or trust.

We just redid our estate docs and the lawyer had language including adopted kids, which we left in. I can’t imagine not treating them the same as biological, but you do you. Just know that your kids may know that you changed standard language, which they’ll likely find out when doing their estate docs.

I had a grandparent create a trust with a blood descendent clause. I honestly think it was the lawyer’s failure but thank god, they were able to amend it just before they died when their first adopted grandchild was adopted. The big takeaway for me was that it’s best to write broad latitude for your descendants. It makes no sense to try to control things after you’re dead. You’re dead. You don’t care, and you can’t help when the thing you didn’t think of inevitably happens.

Anonymous wrote:So rude but it’s their choice. I knew of a parent who wrote a stipulation that grand heirs are related by blood, or adopted, AND in full custody of heir for at least 10 years before 18th birthday.
Ruled out stepchildren, and any shared custody situations.

Stepkids wouldn’t inherit.

What does being adopted have to do with it?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So rude but it’s their choice. I knew of a parent who wrote a stipulation that grand heirs are related by blood, or adopted, AND in full custody of heir for at least 10 years before 18th birthday.
Ruled out stepchildren, and any shared custody situations.

That seems reasonable.

A kid us denied because the parents divorced and shared custody? Can you imagine having to decide to give up custody or deny your child's inheritance... terrible.

They wouldn’t know unless the parent told them ahead of time.

Anonymous wrote:You are disgusting.

You should leave an equal amount of money to your children, and they can share it with their children as they see fit.

This is the way I would do it.

You are disgusting.

You should leave an equal amount of money to your children, and they can share it with their children as they see fit.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So rude but it’s their choice. I knew of a parent who wrote a stipulation that grand heirs are related by blood, or adopted, AND in full custody of heir for at least 10 years before 18th birthday.
Ruled out stepchildren, and any shared custody situations.

That seems reasonable.

A kid us denied because the parents divorced and shared custody? Can you imagine having to decide to give up custody or deny your child's inheritance... terrible.

Anonymous wrote:So rude but it’s their choice. I knew of a parent who wrote a stipulation that grand heirs are related by blood, or adopted, AND in full custody of heir for at least 10 years before 18th birthday.
Ruled out stepchildren, and any shared custody situations.

That seems reasonable.

How about a child that was not legally adopted, but lived in the family like a member of the family?

You can choose not to give to biological kids as well. Other children can decide to give a share to their excluded sibling however...

So rude but it’s their choice. I knew of a parent who wrote a stipulation that grand heirs are related by blood, or adopted, AND in full custody of heir for at least 10 years before 18th birthday.
Ruled out stepchildren, and any shared custody situations.

Is grandparent in the US? Only Louisiana has limited forced heirship. So if in any other state he can disinherit the adopted grandchild without any restriction. Sounds like an awful choice but there you go.

What are the options when a grandparent does not want to include an adopted child in their will?