Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 21:51     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
Anonymous wrote:No I would not do this for a 15 year old. It’s not really any guarantee of your kids wellbeing (“they seem nice”) and much more important is how you and dd communicate about safety etc. I do enjoy meeting my kids friends/SOs parents when ur happens organically, but not in the playdate model


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 21:49     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
Yes, kid the same age. We call the parent to verify things. Most will meet us outside to say hi. If they don't, no visit.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 21:48     Subject: Re:Introduce self to boy's parents?
Anonymous wrote:If you’ve never met the parents and haven’t eyeballed them, then you have NOT:

“confirmed parents are home” and NOT

“Confirmed no hanging out in his room.”


Wait, so you would talk to the parents of the 15yo boy to tell them no hanging out in his room?
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 21:47     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
No I would not do this for a 15 year old. It’s not really any guarantee of your kids wellbeing (“they seem nice”) and much more important is how you and dd communicate about safety etc. I do enjoy meeting my kids friends/SOs parents when ur happens organically, but not in the playdate model
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 21:44     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
Dp. Op, thank you for this thread. Similar dilemma on my end.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 21:42     Subject: Re:Introduce self to boy's parents?
Anonymous wrote:If you’ve never met the parents and haven’t eyeballed them, then you have NOT:

“confirmed parents are home” and NOT

“Confirmed no hanging out in his room.”


Yeah I don’t get this either …
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 21:41     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
The first time my daughter went to her now boyfriend’s house, I was invited in during the drop off. We all chatted for a few minutes. It was nice. A year later, we chat briefly sometimes when one of us is dropping off or picking up the kids. It’s very casual and nice.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 19:01     Subject: Re:Introduce self to boy's parents?
If you’ve never met the parents and haven’t eyeballed them, then you have NOT:

“confirmed parents are home” and NOT

“Confirmed no hanging out in his room.”
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 18:41     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
I don’t think I would do this past the age of 13.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 18:33     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
As long as they're not legal adults, I always meet the parents. My kids are young adults and teens (youngest is 14), and it's worked for us.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 18:31     Subject: Re:Introduce self to boy's parents?
At age 15, no I wouldn’t. Especially if you already talked to them on the phone.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 18:20     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
HS sophomore
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 18:20     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
15
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 18:20     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
How old?
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2024 18:19     Subject: Introduce self to boy's parents?
My DD is going to hang out with a boy whose parents I don't know at his house. I confirmed parents are home. She also is a good kid, and I confirmed our rules (no hanging out in his room, etc.).

On the one hand, my parents never knew where I was ever and I turned out fine (Gen X).

On the other hand, I feel like I should meet the parents when I drop my DD off and eyeball them.

WWYD?