Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Loyalty to club no
Loyalty to team no

Seen it over and over. Kids who want to stay 'loyal' to their team, but the underlying truth is they are too scared and or nervous to move to a different team.

This. My child was so loyal that they refused to go to tryouts with other clubs. Some new kids showed up at tryouts and she learned loyalty went in one direction when she got cut.

The only loyalty a club/team should have is to winning. If she is playing travel, the best players should get an invite. Loyalty/equal playing time is for rec soccer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Loyalty to club no
Loyalty to team no

Seen it over and over. Kids who want to stay 'loyal' to their team, but the underlying truth is they are too scared and or nervous to move to a different team.

This. My child was so loyal that they refused to go to tryouts with other clubs. Some new kids showed up at tryouts and she learned loyalty went in one direction when she got cut.

Thats brutal. Hopefully she learned something from it!

Anonymous wrote:Loyalty to club no
Loyalty to team no

Seen it over and over. Kids who want to stay 'loyal' to their team, but the underlying truth is they are too scared and or nervous to move to a different team.

This. My child was so loyal that they refused to go to tryouts with other clubs. Some new kids showed up at tryouts and she learned loyalty went in one direction when she got cut.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Loyalty to a club = no
Loyalty to a team = yes

This. I have never really seen loyalty to a club last beyond age 9.

I certainly have. Its not the player's loyalty, but the parents. They prioritize themselves over the kid and buy into the club garbage.

Anonymous wrote:Loyalty to a club = no
Loyalty to a team = yes

This. I have never really seen loyalty to a club last beyond age 9.

We moved our kid and yes it's improved his soccer so much but I have never stopped missing the parents from the old club. I'm not the point of the exercise of course, so the move was correct, but it still sucked.

Anonymous wrote:Loyalty to club no
Loyalty to team no

Seen it over and over. Kids who want to stay 'loyal' to their team, but the underlying truth is they are too scared and or nervous to move to a different team.

Thanks for mention this. This was a factor with my player (DC=Darling Child).

Last year, I wanted to switch clubs and went to practice with another team a few times when our practices were rained out. My kid was made an offer, (which I was surprised as DC did not have a very good practice); DC was absolutely too scared and anxious to make the move. So we waited until Spring tryouts, by then DC was ready. But, the year of staying with our current team took its toll, DC literally became worse in a year.

Fast forward to this year, the new club is better and DC is on the 2nd team. DC gets to have combined practice with the 1st and 2nd teams. And although DC knows the goal is to get to the 1st team, DC is too nervous and anxious to even try hard to get to the 1st team. It is a reoccurring theme.

--The lesson I have learned as a parent is, I have to wait until my kid is ready to switch teams, otherwise they are too nervous/ anxious to leave their current team. I would assume this is different as the child matures past puberty, but has been a real factor at ages 9 to 11.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like this guy, especially the part about drinking beer at 9:30am on a Friday!

Guy? That could easily be a soccer mom! Seen our DC joined travel I have seen some hard drinking soccer moms that could out drink anyone. Cheers to you soccer mom! Give 'em hell.

Now this is LOYALTY!

Anonymous wrote:I like this guy, especially the part about drinking beer at 9:30am on a Friday!

Guy? That could easily be a soccer mom! Seen our DC joined travel I have seen some hard drinking soccer moms that could out drink anyone. Cheers to you soccer mom! Give 'em hell.

Loyalty to club no
Loyalty to team no

Seen it over and over. Kids who want to stay 'loyal' to their team, but the underlying truth is they are too scared and or nervous to move to a different team.

I like this guy, especially the part about drinking beer at 9:30am on a Friday!

Anonymous wrote:Loyalty to a club = no
Loyalty to a team = yes

yeah sorta...everyone is competing against each other on that team to get the opportunity for academy/college.

Loyalty to a club = no
Loyalty to a team = yes

Anonymous wrote:Friends...stop prioritizing loyalty to a club over loyalty to your own children! You are a paying customer and these clubs are only looking out for their own interests. They use our children to win tournaments and raise their own profile...to make more money...and get better players...to make more money. Take from them as much as they are taking from you. You are paying for this so make it work for your kid and not the club!

Friday rant over...thanks for listening to my TED talk! Time for a beer.

Totally agree!!!

Friends...stop prioritizing loyalty to a club over loyalty to your own children! You are a paying customer and these clubs are only looking out for their own interests. They use our children to win tournaments and raise their own profile...to make more money...and get better players...to make more money. Take from them as much as they are taking from you. You are paying for this so make it work for your kid and not the club!

Friday rant over...thanks for listening to my TED talk! Time for a beer.