My first attended a daycare with cameras, so not telling wouldn't have worked.

My youngest stayed home with me and still took her first steps for dad.

I know not everyone's the same but as a trained historian I have a slight obsession with accurate record keeping.

Op, that is such a generous attitude you have. I didn't know daycare providers did this for parents, and it's a kind thing to do.

Op here and we have the intake pp suggested. In the past I’ve had parents check that they want to know first milestones and when we have told them, they cried. Some parents have then been cold and rude to us after for a few weeks so it’s now our policy to have all milestones happen at home.

It’s nicer to pretend, really it is. We also care about parent’s feelings. But we should know when they happen at home so that we can look out for them and also be able to chat about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree OP.

Lying or ommitting key information doesn't make for a good daycare. Many of these kids will be in daycare for 4-5 years - the parents want to know what is happening while they are there. They are spending 5 days a week there - likely 9-10 hours a day. Everyone knows they are going to develop and show new developmental skills while at daycare. When they do it at home for the first time, it is still exciting for the parents to see it and it's their first time. But pretending they can't do things they can do would make me question a daycare.

You're stupid.

If a baby is taking her first steps on Monday at DC, then she'll be walking at home within a few days. It's not like the parents are getting their kid checked for possible speech therapy because she's silent at home, but talking poetry at school.

This is highly unlikely but the opposite is exactly what happened to us. DC's speech exploding at home but nonverbal at school. It was selective mutism.

Anonymous wrote:I disagree OP.

Lying or ommitting key information doesn't make for a good daycare. Many of these kids will be in daycare for 4-5 years - the parents want to know what is happening while they are there. They are spending 5 days a week there - likely 9-10 hours a day. Everyone knows they are going to develop and show new developmental skills while at daycare. When they do it at home for the first time, it is still exciting for the parents to see it and it's their first time. But pretending they can't do things they can do would make me question a daycare.

You're stupid.

If a baby is taking her first steps on Monday at DC, then she'll be walking at home within a few days. It's not like the parents are getting their kid checked for possible speech therapy because she's silent at home, but talking poetry at school.

The “1st” milestone is so insane I don’t really care if I was there for the 1st.

Sometimes it will be me, sometimes my husband, sometime it will happen in a crib in the middle of the night.

Who the heck is with their child 24x7 and if you are rethink …

Ffs… stop creating issues where there is none.

I disagree OP.

Lying or ommitting key information doesn't make for a good daycare. Many of these kids will be in daycare for 4-5 years - the parents want to know what is happening while they are there. They are spending 5 days a week there - likely 9-10 hours a day. Everyone knows they are going to develop and show new developmental skills while at daycare. When they do it at home for the first time, it is still exciting for the parents to see it and its their first time. But pretending they can't do things they can do would make me question a daycare.

General rule is that that all firsts happen at home. The only exception is rolling over. That needs to be shared for safety reasons.

Anonymous wrote:Personally I don’t like this approach. I want to know when my child actually took her first steps. I’d be disappointed to learn I wasn’t getting the whole story from daycare. Just me?

When I used to work in daycare we'd ask at intake. "If your kid does something here, and we think it's a first, like first steps, do you want to know?" Some parents say yes, some say no. Both are fine. If parents say no then you should say "Please tell us if he does something at home!"

Anonymous wrote:Personally I don’t like this approach. I want to know when my child actually took her first steps. I’d be disappointed to learn I wasn’t getting the whole story from daycare. Just me?

Yes, just you.

Personally I don’t like this approach. I want to know when my child actually took her first steps. I’d be disappointed to learn I wasn’t getting the whole story from daycare. Just me?

Anonymous wrote:Your baby just took her first steps with me at daycare. But, I want you to have all the joy for yourself so I won’t tell you.

That did not work out. I don’t know how it posted I had not finished my comment!

I never tell parents when babies take their first steps or reach major milestones at daycare. I keep it quiet, but I want parents to share with me so that the next day I can say it happened here too!

I just had a baby take her first steps. I am joyful, but now I don’t know if these are her first step since her parents don’t communicate with staff. So I won’t say a word until they do, but it would make it easier if parents communicated milestones to daycare staff.

Just keep that in mind in case you are a parent who has limited time in the morning or doesn’t like to communicate with staff. A text or email would work just as well.

Your baby just took her first steps with me at daycare. But, I want you to have all the joy for yourself so I won’t tell you.