Anonymous wrote:When I was teaching and new, I did this and was asked by my principal to stop. I did not realize that it was demoralizing to the parent. I am glad that I was told. I would advise that you email everyone on the IEP team weekly and say that you understand that there were X instances of whatever behavior happening this week and then say what should have happened as a result according to the plans.

You should ask the teacher to email you so you can find out what you need to know when you are ready to hear or, or she can use a daily communication sheet. Explain that it is hate to hear every day, just as you have here. She is likely overwhelmed and it makes her feel better to be passing the information on, but that’s not your problem. Ask to hear good things, too. I also imagine your kid is hearing all this negative information being passed on and that’s not okay. He’s doing the best he can.

At the end of the quarter insist on an in-person meeting to go over the placement. Go up the chain of command if you get stonewalled. Principals hate for central office or school board members to get involved.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the school works according to the concept "The New Authority" developed by the Israeli psychologist Haim Omer. It's a concept to combat bad behavior and violence at school and at home. It includes comprehensive and, if necessary, regular information for parents about negative incidents.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was teaching and new, I did this and was asked by my principal to stop. I did not realize that it was demoralizing to the parent. I am glad that I was told. I would advise that you email everyone on the IEP team weekly and say that you understand that there were X instances of whatever behavior happening this week and then say what should have happened as a result according to the plans.

You should ask the teacher to email you so you can find out what you need to know when you are ready to hear or, or she can use a daily communication sheet. Explain that it is hate to hear every day, just as you have here. She is likely overwhelmed and it makes her feel better to be passing the information on, but that’s not your problem. Ask to hear good things, too. I also imagine your kid is hearing all this negative information being passed on and that’s not okay. He’s doing the best he can.

At the end of the quarter insist on an in-person meeting to go over the placement. Go up the chain of command if you get stonewalled. Principals hate for central office or school board members to get involved.

I had the opposite experience teaching- I was told by my administration to document everything.

Anonymous wrote:I'd follow up with an email to the teacher, case manager, and special ed coordinator. "Thanks so much for telling me about X on Monday and Y on Tuesday. Could you please tell me how she responded to [interventions required by BIP]? If the BIP is not currently effective, please let me know when the school can meet to discuss revisions."

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Anonymous wrote:When I was teaching and new, I did this and was asked by my principal to stop. I did not realize that it was demoralizing to the parent. I am glad that I was told. I would advise that you email everyone on the IEP team weekly and say that you understand that there were X instances of whatever behavior happening this week and then say what should have happened as a result according to the plans.

You should ask the teacher to email you so you can find out what you need to know when you are ready to hear or, or she can use a daily communication sheet. Explain that it is hate to hear every day, just as you have here. She is likely overwhelmed and it makes her feel better to be passing the information on, but that’s not your problem. Ask to hear good things, too. I also imagine your kid is hearing all this negative information being passed on and that’s not okay. He’s doing the best he can.

At the end of the quarter insist on an in-person meeting to go over the placement. Go up the chain of command if you get stonewalled. Principals hate for central office or school board members to get involved.

I had the opposite experience teaching- I was told by my administration to document everything.

Anonymous wrote:When I was teaching and new, I did this and was asked by my principal to stop. I did not realize that it was demoralizing to the parent. I am glad that I was told. I would advise that you email everyone on the IEP team weekly and say that you understand that there were X instances of whatever behavior happening this week and then say what should have happened as a result according to the plans.

You should ask the teacher to email you so you can find out what you need to know when you are ready to hear or, or she can use a daily communication sheet. Explain that it is hate to hear every day, just as you have here. She is likely overwhelmed and it makes her feel better to be passing the information on, but that’s not your problem. Ask to hear good things, too. I also imagine your kid is hearing all this negative information being passed on and that’s not okay. He’s doing the best he can.

At the end of the quarter insist on an in-person meeting to go over the placement. Go up the chain of command if you get stonewalled. Principals hate for central office or school board members to get involved.

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry. She does not need to do this. It’s pretty useless and just makes you feel awful. Who is it helping?

I’d say, yes, this is an inappropriate placement for him. We are working on getting him a better one. Every time. In a nice, non-commital, sunny voice. Smile. Repeat.

Anonymous wrote:You are doing the right thing with a simple acknowledgement. It doesn't need a long discussion, and pickup isn't the time to get into a whole conversation anyway.

You are doing the right thing. She is doing the right thing by providing you information. Understand that it's her job, and try to disengage from it emotionally. I know it's super hard.