Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have lost about 35 lbs in the past two years. I'm not a tall woman, so it's very noticeable. However, most of it was lost because of medical reasons (thyroid, medication change, etc.) and some were lost due to not eating during a depressive episode. People are assuming I changed my eating habits, and even go as far as to say they are proud of me for eating healthy and losing weight. I know they mean to be kind. I know they think they're being complimentary. But I'm so over people commenting on my weight. My weight gain was largely out of my control in the first place (went from a size zero to a size 14), and it makes me feel self conscious. So PSA - think twice before commenting on someone's weight loss - it may be a sensitive topic for them.

I agree to a point. But then we get mixed messages. A person will come on say I lost so much weight from eating right/exercising and no one commented!

So most people are just trying to have basic human interactions and yes sometimes will put their foot in their mouth. So now, I don't want to have any idle chit chat because either way you are wrong. Better to say nothing.

Normal people would not say anything.

The only reason for the mixed messages is because of all the toxic masculinity out there.

Anonymous wrote:I would love for people to comment on my weight.

At least they're paying attention, OP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have lost about 35 lbs in the past two years. I'm not a tall woman, so it's very noticeable. However, most of it was lost because of medical reasons (thyroid, medication change, etc.) and some were lost due to not eating during a depressive episode. People are assuming I changed my eating habits, and even go as far as to say they are proud of me for eating healthy and losing weight. I know they mean to be kind. I know they think they're being complimentary. But I'm so over people commenting on my weight. My weight gain was largely out of my control in the first place (went from a size zero to a size 14), and it makes me feel self conscious. So PSA - think twice before commenting on someone's weight loss - it may be a sensitive topic for them.

I agree to a point. But then we get mixed messages. A person will come on say I lost so much weight from eating right/exercising and no one commented!

So most people are just trying to have basic human interactions and yes sometimes will put their foot in their mouth. So now, I don't want to have any idle chit chat because either way you are wrong. Better to say nothing.

Anonymous wrote:I have lost about 35 lbs in the past two years. I'm not a tall woman, so it's very noticeable. However, most of it was lost because of medical reasons (thyroid, medication change, etc.) and some were lost due to not eating during a depressive episode. People are assuming I changed my eating habits, and even go as far as to say they are proud of me for eating healthy and losing weight. I know they mean to be kind. I know they think they're being complimentary. But I'm so over people commenting on my weight. My weight gain was largely out of my control in the first place (went from a size zero to a size 14), and it makes me feel self conscious. So PSA - think twice before commenting on someone's weight loss - it may be a sensitive topic for them.

Anonymous wrote:People are going to make small talk and it's easy to a) make a compliment and b) make it about weight because that's an easy one. They aren't noticing skin and hair. A few of the more adept ones will compliment how a color really "lights up your face and brings your eyes out" but they are just bullsh!tting too.

Just be gracious and accept the compliment and change the subject. That's manners and class. Make everyone feel comfortable. They have no idea they are not doing it but you can do it.