As a non-Catholic with many Catholic family members and friends, it seems to me based on their experiences that your choice was to give her the thumbs up, or spend a chunk of your 50s and 60s raising (or helping to raise) unexpected grandchildren.

So I think you made the right call.

Catholic parent (and one who waited for marriage if that matters.) I would okay it. I’ve discussed the values, morals, etc. that I go by with my girls and have explained my hopes for them. That said, they are free to live their own lives by their own value system because I can’t do that for them. It’s a necessary part of growing up and learning to make independent decisions.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are still funding her life and lifestyle, so out of respect, she keeps us in the loop. Maybe the wording was off. She let us know, and wanted us to be ok with it.

I think your daughter over shares a bit and should be more independent. But if you're happy with the amount she tells you, the best way to continue that closeness is to be supportive.

No

YES, it is good that your daughter is hoping to protect herself from an unwanted pregnancy. I'm Catholic. I am fine with birth control.

Catholic mom here, but my kids are a bit younger. I think in today’s world, the fact that your dd is using birth control in the context of a committed relationship is certainly not the worst thing.

DD is 16 and just started BC for PCOS. But, both DDs knew very specifically how to get birth control at this age. My mantra was if you think you are old enough to have sex you had best ensure you are well protected from pregnancy and STDs.
If I thought they or DS was having sex I would absolutely make sure they had condoms.

I am pretty conservative and they know my advice/ feelings in it, but life happens. I

OP here. We are still funding her life and lifestyle, so out of respect, she keeps us in the loop. Maybe the wording was off. She let us know, and wanted us to be ok with it.

I don’t understand why she is consulting you either. Shock value? When I was that age, I made decisions and had a good grace and respect for my parents to NOT TELL THEM.

....you are "okaying" the "request" of an adult - a 20 year old - to go on birth control?

WTF??

This is a bizarre, controlling perspective. This is up to HER. You don't have to "okay" anything.

you are kidding?

for the anti-catholics, 100% of catholics use birth control in the US

Not acceding to this request would put you in the minority of fundie weirdos, OP. Do you even have to ask?

Anonymous wrote:I consider myself a fairly conservative practicing Catholic and not only would I okay this request but I don’t think I should even be in the position of being consulted on it for my 18+ daughter, regardless of whether she is on my insurance.

For what it’s worth I suffered from endometriosis and was prescribed birth control for medical reasons long before preventing contraception was even on the radar, which perhaps contributed to making me more lax about the issue, but I’d just keep in mind there are many reasons for it being prescribed and try to let it go from there and stay out of your adult daughter’s business unless otherwise asked.

I consider myself a fairly conservative practicing Catholic and not only would I okay this request but I don’t think I should even be in the position of being consulted on it for my 18+ daughter, regardless of whether she is on my insurance.

DD is a sophomore in college. She let us know she would visit the campus health clinic for birth control. She has a boyfriend. They have been together for about six months, nice kid. DD is still under our health insurance.

We are ok-ing this request. Are we the only Catholic parents in this position? We are not super conservative Catholics nor majorly involved at our parish, but both kids went to Catholic k-8.