Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is your coparenting relationship? Can you sit down with his dad, make a list together of what activities are most important to both of you, and divide them up between Saturdays and Sundays?
No, that would mean both Saturday and Sunday are booked, which is the opposite of what I want! Alternating scheduled activities on Saturdays and Sundays might be OK but I doubt we can find tutors/classes that allow that.
You're being ridiculous. Most sport activities don't gaf about what you want. Schedule him for the sport or tutor he wants and he may have games or lessons on Sat or Sun. Coparent with his dad. It's not about you. Day trips are a thing of the past at age 12.
hmmm … maybe… not all kids are the same? I know that activity providers don’t GAF about what’s best for families (the person posting about their 12 yr old having sports practice until 10:30 pm!) That’s the whole issue. I don’t know if a one-hour tutoring session or swim lesson is worth scheduling our whole Sunday around.
Why is a 12 year old in a 1 hour a week swim lesson? What are they possibly getting from that?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is your coparenting relationship? Can you sit down with his dad, make a list together of what activities are most important to both of you, and divide them up between Saturdays and Sundays?
No, that would mean both Saturday and Sunday are booked, which is the opposite of what I want! Alternating scheduled activities on Saturdays and Sundays might be OK but I doubt we can find tutors/classes that allow that.
You're being ridiculous. Most sport activities don't gaf about what you want. Schedule him for the sport or tutor he wants and he may have games or lessons on Sat or Sun. Coparent with his dad. It's not about you. Day trips are a thing of the past at age 12.
hmmm … maybe… not all kids are the same? I know that activity providers don’t GAF about what’s best for families (the person posting about their 12 yr old having sports practice until 10:30 pm!) That’s the whole issue. I don’t know if a one-hour tutoring session or swim lesson is worth scheduling our whole Sunday around.
That's one issue but it's not the issue in this scenario. The scenario here presents a mom who wants to be free to do as she wants with her kid on the one weekend day she has him. She doesn't want to be bogged down with the kids activities. My advice to her is to change the custody plan. Kid needs to spend more time with Dad during the week and they can all alternate weekends. But to expect a kid to go without is not fair and not in their best interest. Dad can also accommodate all those things she wants her kid to have.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is your coparenting relationship? Can you sit down with his dad, make a list together of what activities are most important to both of you, and divide them up between Saturdays and Sundays?
No, that would mean both Saturday and Sunday are booked, which is the opposite of what I want! Alternating scheduled activities on Saturdays and Sundays might be OK but I doubt we can find tutors/classes that allow that.
You're being ridiculous. Most sport activities don't gaf about what you want. Schedule him for the sport or tutor he wants and he may have games or lessons on Sat or Sun. Coparent with his dad. It's not about you. Day trips are a thing of the past at age 12.
hmmm … maybe… not all kids are the same? I know that activity providers don’t GAF about what’s best for families (the person posting about their 12 yr old having sports practice until 10:30 pm!) That’s the whole issue. I don’t know if a one-hour tutoring session or swim lesson is worth scheduling our whole Sunday around.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is your coparenting relationship? Can you sit down with his dad, make a list together of what activities are most important to both of you, and divide them up between Saturdays and Sundays?
No, that would mean both Saturday and Sunday are booked, which is the opposite of what I want! Alternating scheduled activities on Saturdays and Sundays might be OK but I doubt we can find tutors/classes that allow that.
You're being ridiculous. Most sport activities don't gaf about what you want. Schedule him for the sport or tutor he wants and he may have games or lessons on Sat or Sun. Coparent with his dad. It's not about you. Day trips are a thing of the past at age 12.
hmmm … maybe… not all kids are the same? I know that activity providers don’t GAF about what’s best for families (the person posting about their 12 yr old having sports practice until 10:30 pm!) That’s the whole issue. I don’t know if a one-hour tutoring session or swim lesson is worth scheduling our whole Sunday around.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is your coparenting relationship? Can you sit down with his dad, make a list together of what activities are most important to both of you, and divide them up between Saturdays and Sundays?
No, that would mean both Saturday and Sunday are booked, which is the opposite of what I want! Alternating scheduled activities on Saturdays and Sundays might be OK but I doubt we can find tutors/classes that allow that.
You're being ridiculous. Most sport activities don't gaf about what you want. Schedule him for the sport or tutor he wants and he may have games or lessons on Sat or Sun. Coparent with his dad. It's not about you. Day trips are a thing of the past at age 12.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is your coparenting relationship? Can you sit down with his dad, make a list together of what activities are most important to both of you, and divide them up between Saturdays and Sundays?
No, that would mean both Saturday and Sunday are booked, which is the opposite of what I want! Alternating scheduled activities on Saturdays and Sundays might be OK but I doubt we can find tutors/classes that allow that.
Anonymous wrote:We had a schedule like that last year. It was really hard, especially since there are multiple kids.
This year, we ended up moving to a schedule where the primary parent has them for the entire weekend every other weekend, and just for a meal on the weekends in between. So, both households have some Saturdays where they are driving all around, and some Sundays when they can relax or plan something with the family.
Anonymous wrote:How is your coparenting relationship? Can you sit down with his dad, make a list together of what activities are most important to both of you, and divide them up between Saturdays and Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.
Any thoughts?