Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 10:39     Subject: Re:Does DHMS have detention after school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DHMS is lunch detention. It's not tracked and you don't get a notice as a parent. It's pretty useless as to changing your student's behavior at home, unless your student tells you they had it and what it was truthfully for.

My student at DHMS was allowed to access and use his phone throughout the day yesterday. By his teachers. Other kids confirmed this. So not sure that whole away all day thing is an actual thing?

Most of the students don't yet have access to lockers. So they aren't storing their phones there.

We took his phone this morning and he just won't have it. Makes after school more difficult but without help at school to follow the rule, not sure what else a parent can do.


I can report the same thing happened at Swanson last year at least. Teachers don't enforce the policy. That was my feedback to the School Board on their policy and I hope other people tell them the same thing. Your policy isn't working if no one will enforce it. I think the pilot with the pouches for the phone is a good idea and takes the burden off the teachers.


The policy was further justification given to my student for why they didn't need a phone yet and a watch was sufficient. I guess it's harder for those who have already given a phone to their child at this point.
Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 10:32     Subject: Re:Does DHMS have detention after school
Anonymous wrote:DHMS is lunch detention. It's not tracked and you don't get a notice as a parent. It's pretty useless as to changing your student's behavior at home, unless your student tells you they had it and what it was truthfully for.

My student at DHMS was allowed to access and use his phone throughout the day yesterday. By his teachers. Other kids confirmed this. So not sure that whole away all day thing is an actual thing?

Most of the students don't yet have access to lockers. So they aren't storing their phones there.

We took his phone this morning and he just won't have it. Makes after school more difficult but without help at school to follow the rule, not sure what else a parent can do.


I can report the same thing happened at Swanson last year at least. Teachers don't enforce the policy. That was my feedback to the School Board on their policy and I hope other people tell them the same thing. Your policy isn't working if no one will enforce it. I think the pilot with the pouches for the phone is a good idea and takes the burden off the teachers.
Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 10:08     Subject: Re:Does DHMS have detention after school
DHMS is lunch detention. It's not tracked and you don't get a notice as a parent. It's pretty useless as to changing your student's behavior at home, unless your student tells you they had it and what it was truthfully for.

My student at DHMS was allowed to access and use his phone throughout the day yesterday. By his teachers. Other kids confirmed this. So not sure that whole away all day thing is an actual thing?

Most of the students don't yet have access to lockers. So they aren't storing their phones there.

We took his phone this morning and he just won't have it. Makes after school more difficult but without help at school to follow the rule, not sure what else a parent can do.
Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 07:42     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Your kid just started 5th grade and you’re already fretting about a hypothetical detention a year from now?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 23:23     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
DHMS does not allow cell phones during the school day, they're required to be in lockers. Smartwatches can be worn but must be in airplane mode during school (or downtime or whatever). I have no idea how strictly this is followed.

I'm a little surprised it hasn't been an issue in her elementary school...
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 22:52     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Zero chance APS will make a student miss a bus and not have a way home. Absolutely none. What are they going to do with a kid sitting there? Leave him/her? There is always a late bus. Dunno about detention.

You need to get control of your kid and their phone situation now however. They are fifth grade. Geez. That's ridiculous.


Thanks glad to know it’s just lunch detention.

The phone thing is a security blanket left over from the isolation phase of the pandemic; she likes to stay in touch with us, friends, and extended family and gets anxious if she doesn’t have hear from someone regularly. We are working with a therapist.


Her “isolation” in kindergarten!?! Sounds like you are anxious and passing that along. I am glad there is a therapist involved because it really sounds like you have some work to do.

The phone is super dangerous for her and for you. Read about it. It’s really only hurting her anxiety. Phones cause anxiety. Phones are not appropriate for fifth graders. They are not. Deal with it.


I was thinking this too…. Did she have a phone in K or 1st? If not, how is it “leftover” from the pandemic?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 22:00     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Zero chance APS will make a student miss a bus and not have a way home. Absolutely none. What are they going to do with a kid sitting there? Leave him/her? There is always a late bus. Dunno about detention.

You need to get control of your kid and their phone situation now however. They are fifth grade. Geez. That's ridiculous.


Thanks glad to know it’s just lunch detention.

The phone thing is a security blanket left over from the isolation phase of the pandemic; she likes to stay in touch with us, friends, and extended family and gets anxious if she doesn’t have hear from someone regularly. We are working with a therapist.


Her “isolation” in kindergarten!?! Sounds like you are anxious and passing that along. I am glad there is a therapist involved because it really sounds like you have some work to do.

The phone is super dangerous for her and for you. Read about it. It’s really only hurting her anxiety. Phones cause anxiety. Phones are not appropriate for fifth graders. They are not. Deal with it.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 21:47     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Zero chance APS will make a student miss a bus and not have a way home. Absolutely none. What are they going to do with a kid sitting there? Leave him/her? There is always a late bus. Dunno about detention.

You need to get control of your kid and their phone situation now however. They are fifth grade. Geez. That's ridiculous.


Thanks glad to know it’s just lunch detention.

The phone thing is a security blanket left over from the isolation phase of the pandemic; she likes to stay in touch with us, friends, and extended family and gets anxious if she doesn’t have hear from someone regularly. We are working with a therapist.

The isolation phase when she was in 1st-3rd grade?


I have a 5th grader. They were affected in K and 1st.

Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 21:44     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Just get her an Apple watch. I am able to reach my dc during the day if we need to text each other. She’s at Hamm now.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 21:38     Subject: Re:Does DHMS have detention after school
Yes they have after school detention. There are late buses in middle school.

Turn your kids phone off during the day via screen time if she isn’t going to be able to comply.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 21:15     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Zero chance APS will make a student miss a bus and not have a way home. Absolutely none. What are they going to do with a kid sitting there? Leave him/her? There is always a late bus. Dunno about detention.

You need to get control of your kid and their phone situation now however. They are fifth grade. Geez. That's ridiculous.


Thanks glad to know it’s just lunch detention.

The phone thing is a security blanket left over from the isolation phase of the pandemic; she likes to stay in touch with us, friends, and extended family and gets anxious if she doesn’t have hear from someone regularly. We are working with a therapist.

The isolation phase when she was in 1st-3rd grade?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 20:19     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Anonymous wrote:Zero chance APS will make a student miss a bus and not have a way home. Absolutely none. What are they going to do with a kid sitting there? Leave him/her? There is always a late bus. Dunno about detention.

You need to get control of your kid and their phone situation now however. They are fifth grade. Geez. That's ridiculous.


Thanks glad to know it’s just lunch detention.

The phone thing is a security blanket left over from the isolation phase of the pandemic; she likes to stay in touch with us, friends, and extended family and gets anxious if she doesn’t have hear from someone regularly. We are working with a therapist.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 19:57     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Zero chance APS will make a student miss a bus and not have a way home. Absolutely none. What are they going to do with a kid sitting there? Leave him/her? There is always a late bus. Dunno about detention.

You need to get control of your kid and their phone situation now however. They are fifth grade. Geez. That's ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 19:54     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
Hopefully someone with knowledge will chime in, but as a new 6th grade parent I have heard that lunch detention exists.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2024 17:41     Subject: Does DHMS have detention after school
My sister was telling me about her 7th graders troublesome friend (that’s a story), who is always in detention after school.

We are 5th grade parents and our DD heads to middle school at DHMS and I realized I have no idea if after school detention is a thing in APS? Would we have to pick them up since they miss the bus, or they wait for the late bus — does it align time wise?

We both work, so would be a huge pain. I worry mostly about this cell phone crackdown; we have been pretty lax about phones and worry next year DD will abuse the freedoms of middle school and test the policies and get detention. The phone problem will be another thread…