Anonymous
Post 08/26/2024 09:33     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why are we so concerned if they’re getting married in their 20s? Statistically they are much less likely to divorce if they marry at 30+.

DC is generally populated with highly educated intelligent people but these recent threads really belie that - parents, grab a brain and stop thinking it’s a negative that your kids aren’t getting married and procreating under 30. if they do, you’ll be on here in 10 years, lamenting their blended family situation with the grandkids because the marriages won’t last.


It’s a lot harder to find a good spouse once you leave the college/grad school lifestyle. Yes it happens for some, but it’s basically OLD or colleagues after that. There will never again be as many academic/intellectual peers in your life again once you leave school. So even if you don’t marry then, it’s still good to have found the person by then.



I really really don’t mean to be unkind or ageist with this response, but no, it’s not. I get that there are parents From many generations on here and the people commenting about kids getting married in their 20s, the parents/commenters themselves are generally in their 50s and perhaps early 60s.

For those of us who are younger/have younger kids and have been out in the dating world in the last 10 to 15 years, it just simply isn’t that difficult or bad as what you’re saying. I’m in my early 40s, and in contrast, literally all of my friends that did marry In their 20s divorced their partners. They have blended families now which are fine but all the concerns that come with such. Those who waited to marry until they’re 30s and 40s:
a) did not struggle to find partners (though it may have been perceived that way be those who assumed they wanted to be married younger) and
b) are still married to those partners they met later.


Well, I know many people who married their college boyfriends 20+ years ago and only one divorced. I also know many who didn't marry until their mid 30's and they all definitely settled, either in looks or in the earning potential of their husband, or in some cases both. A good looking guy with strong earning potential and a desire to be a "family man" is not going to be single into his 30's. He just isn't. Even in 2024. Couples might wait longer to actually tie the knot, but some smart woman has still gotten him locked into a committed relationship long before that.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2024 07:46     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
The average age for marriage in the US is now 27-28…so, yes 20 something’s are getting married.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2024 06:52     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why are we so concerned if they’re getting married in their 20s? Statistically they are much less likely to divorce if they marry at 30+.

DC is generally populated with highly educated intelligent people but these recent threads really belie that - parents, grab a brain and stop thinking it’s a negative that your kids aren’t getting married and procreating under 30. if they do, you’ll be on here in 10 years, lamenting their blended family situation with the grandkids because the marriages won’t last.


It’s a lot harder to find a good spouse once you leave the college/grad school lifestyle. Yes it happens for some, but it’s basically OLD or colleagues after that. There will never again be as many academic/intellectual peers in your life again once you leave school. So even if you don’t marry then, it’s still good to have found the person by then.



I really really don’t mean to be unkind or ageist with this response, but no, it’s not. I get that there are parents From many generations on here and the people commenting about kids getting married in their 20s, the parents/commenters themselves are generally in their 50s and perhaps early 60s.

For those of us who are younger/have younger kids and have been out in the dating world in the last 10 to 15 years, it just simply isn’t that difficult or bad as what you’re saying. I’m in my early 40s, and in contrast, literally all of my friends that did marry In their 20s divorced their partners. They have blended families now which are fine but all the concerns that come with such. Those who waited to marry until they’re 30s and 40s:
a) did not struggle to find partners (though it may have been perceived that way be those who assumed they wanted to be married younger) and
b) are still married to those partners they met later.


You’re in your early 40s and bragging that your peers who just got married in the past few years are still married?
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2024 00:45     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why are we doing this every week?


Is it really that hard to guess? Parents worry.


What is there to worry about? Look at all the unhappily married people who feel stuck. I'd worry about them.


Look at the people scared of commitment in 20's, facing dwindling prospects in 30's and settling out of fear or laziness with whoever seems interested from shallow pool of potentials.


This sounds very anecdotal. Who are these people, and how do you know what they are scared of in their 20s or “settling” because of in their 30s?

Stats re: successful marriage ages (and not in the 50s or 80s, but in recent years please.)

How many got married in the late 2000s- 2010s while they were in their early or mid twenties, and are still together, versus how many got married in that period at 30+ who are still together.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2024 00:28     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why are we doing this every week?


Is it really that hard to guess? Parents worry.


What is there to worry about? Look at all the unhappily married people who feel stuck. I'd worry about them.


Look at the people scared of commitment in 20's, facing dwindling prospects in 30's and settling out of fear or laziness with whoever seems interested from shallow pool of potentials.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2024 00:23     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
This is a double edged knife, both approaches can succeed or fail. Parents might as well support kids who find compatible spouses and want to marry and similarly support kids who take longer to find a spouse or whose marriages fail or who prefer to stay single.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2024 00:12     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why are we doing this every week?


Is it really that hard to guess? Parents worry.


What is there to worry about? Look at all the unhappily married people who feel stuck. I'd worry about them.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2024 00:05     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why are we so concerned if they’re getting married in their 20s? Statistically they are much less likely to divorce if they marry at 30+.

DC is generally populated with highly educated intelligent people but these recent threads really belie that - parents, grab a brain and stop thinking it’s a negative that your kids aren’t getting married and procreating under 30. if they do, you’ll be on here in 10 years, lamenting their blended family situation with the grandkids because the marriages won’t last.


It’s a lot harder to find a good spouse once you leave the college/grad school lifestyle. Yes it happens for some, but it’s basically OLD or colleagues after that. There will never again be as many academic/intellectual peers in your life again once you leave school. So even if you don’t marry then, it’s still good to have found the person by then.



I really really don’t mean to be unkind or ageist with this response, but no, it’s not. I get that there are parents From many generations on here and the people commenting about kids getting married in their 20s, the parents/commenters themselves are generally in their 50s and perhaps early 60s.

For those of us who are younger/have younger kids and have been out in the dating world in the last 10 to 15 years, it just simply isn’t that difficult or bad as what you’re saying. I’m in my early 40s, and in contrast, literally all of my friends that did marry In their 20s divorced their partners. They have blended families now which are fine but all the concerns that come with such. Those who waited to marry until they’re 30s and 40s:
a) did not struggle to find partners (though it may have been perceived that way be those who assumed they wanted to be married younger) and
b) are still married to those partners they met later.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2024 23:46     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:Why are we so concerned if they’re getting married in their 20s? Statistically they are much less likely to divorce if they marry at 30+.

DC is generally populated with highly educated intelligent people but these recent threads really belie that - parents, grab a brain and stop thinking it’s a negative that your kids aren’t getting married and procreating under 30. if they do, you’ll be on here in 10 years, lamenting their blended family situation with the grandkids because the marriages won’t last.


It’s a lot harder to find a good spouse once you leave the college/grad school lifestyle. Yes it happens for some, but it’s basically OLD or colleagues after that. There will never again be as many academic/intellectual peers in your life again once you leave school. So even if you don’t marry then, it’s still good to have found the person by then.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2024 23:42     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Why are we so concerned if they’re getting married in their 20s? Statistically they are much less likely to divorce if they marry at 30+.

DC is generally populated with highly educated intelligent people but these recent threads really belie that - parents, grab a brain and stop thinking it’s a negative that your kids aren’t getting married and procreating under 30. if they do, you’ll be on here in 10 years, lamenting their blended family situation with the grandkids because the marriages won’t last.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2024 23:20     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:Why are we doing this every week?


Is it really that hard to guess? Parents worry.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2024 23:19     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Anonymous wrote:Are 20s something still getting married?

I know they are not having kids, but do they still want to get married?


There are more than a billion people in 20-29 age bracket, its safe to say they are not likely to be a monolith. A small percentage is probably going to stay single.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2024 23:17     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Why are we doing this every week?
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2024 21:42     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Yes
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2024 21:41     Subject: Are 20s something still getting married?
Are 20s something still getting married?

I know they are not having kids, but do they still want to get married?