Anonymous
08/25/2024 07:31
Subject: Push present
Anonymous wrote:My MIL is south Asian and gifted me a gold ring. I thought it was interesting and decided I wanted more gifts but from DH. First baby I got laser hair removal for my legs and a series of massages. Second baby I signed up for a year of acupuncture. I had a lot of joint pain postpartum the second time. Dh didn’t know about any of these gifts until after they were purchased but he was fine. My husband isn’t the best at gift giving so I take care of it 😊 for the third baby I’m not sure what I want.
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Anonymous
08/25/2024 07:15
Subject: Push present
It's embarrassing when adults want presents. Presents are for children.
Anonymous
08/25/2024 07:11
Subject: Push present
I am NOT a gift person. In any way. No gifts, please.
But I understand that other people are gift people (and/or aliens) and that’s how they express/receive love so then it makes total sense to me that birth would be a gift occasion, and I don’t get why people get so upset about this but not Christmas presents or whatever.
But I understand that other people are gift people (and/or aliens) and that’s how they express/receive love so then it makes total sense to me that birth would be a gift occasion, and I don’t get why people get so upset about this but not Christmas presents or whatever.
Anonymous
08/25/2024 07:07
Subject: Push present
I don’t like the name… delivery is hard but so are the 9 months.. I also think the gift doesn’t need to come right after the baby is born. Buy a package of massages, go to the hair salon etc. I do think it’s important for women to take care of themselves. Your body went through a ton of changes. Personal training for a year is another great option.
Anonymous
08/25/2024 07:04
Subject: Push present
My MIL is south Asian and gifted me a gold ring. I thought it was interesting and decided I wanted more gifts but from DH. First baby I got laser hair removal for my legs and a series of massages. Second baby I signed up for a year of acupuncture. I had a lot of joint pain postpartum the second time. Dh didn’t know about any of these gifts until after they were purchased but he was fine. My husband isn’t the best at gift giving so I take care of it 😊 for the third baby I’m not sure what I want.
Anonymous
08/25/2024 06:23
Subject: Re:Push present
I am Indian and there is no concept of push present in my culture. However, ILs and parents both sets of parents gave me and the baby gold jewelry and a bunch of silver baby accessories in a ceremony to welcome the baby and introduce the baby to friends and relatives.
Most of my jewelry has actually come from my parents and ILs. My DH will buy me stuff from Costco jewelry and call it a day.
Most of my jewelry has actually come from my parents and ILs. My DH will buy me stuff from Costco jewelry and call it a day.
Anonymous
08/25/2024 05:16
Subject: Push present
Stacking rings with each child's birthstone, their names and birthdays engraved inside. I designed them and bought them myself though (with spouses blessing - told him I wanted to do this, he thought it was a great idea)
Anonymous
08/25/2024 00:20
Subject: Push present
I had some stones from my grandmother's set into earrings. Something I had always wanted to do anyways.
Anonymous
08/25/2024 00:02
Subject: Push present
I didn't want one, but I'm not much of a gift person. I'm definitely not triggered by it and if it is something that someone wants, that's great.
I do find it tacky when they are either demanding about it or when they act like getting one makes them superior. Both of which I have seen first hand.
I do find it tacky when they are either demanding about it or when they act like getting one makes them superior. Both of which I have seen first hand.
Anonymous
08/24/2024 23:54
Subject: Push present
Some jewelry with the birthstone
Anonymous
08/24/2024 23:52
Subject: Push present
I think it’s a cute idea and I like jewelry so I would have loved a special piece in celebration. We weren’t in the financial place to make purchases like that when we were having kids so we didn’t do anything like this. But if I had another kid now I’d love an emerald ring for my right hand
Anonymous
08/24/2024 23:04
Subject: Push present
Tacky
Anonymous
08/24/2024 22:55
Subject: Re:Push present
Lol no...the thing I wanted was husband to watch baby while I napped or showered or to wash bottles ( he did all of that) can't imagine what physical gift I'd want more
Anonymous
08/24/2024 22:27
Subject: Push present
NO
unless you count helping pay for my pelvic floor therapy ….
unless you count helping pay for my pelvic floor therapy ….
Anonymous
08/24/2024 22:17
Subject: Push present
Did you get a gift from your DH after giving birth? If so, what? If not, what would you have wanted?
I know people get triggered by the idea of a “push present” - please just think of it as a celebratory gift you deserve for putting your body through pregnancy and childbirth.
I know people get triggered by the idea of a “push present” - please just think of it as a celebratory gift you deserve for putting your body through pregnancy and childbirth.