Anonymous
08/28/2024 19:20
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Got it, you are desperate to find a way to stick it to him. Go for it. Don’t worry if you hurt the kids.
Jeff I’m not sure what has happened to DCUM. This used to be a place I could come to for advice. Now it’s full of mentally ill trolls. I’ve been using DCUM for 15 years and user experience seems to be drastically declining in quality.
Fwiw, my ex refused to budge in mediation even though I bent over backwards to compromise. He wanted to go to court even though we proposed a parent coordinator in mediation. We told him court would mean a CE or GAL, and that they would most likely recommend joint custody (ex has manipulated situation and lied to the point kids don’t want to cross him and I can’t get them on my time). Perhaps he didn’t understand that once it got to court it would no longer be his decision, but a judge’s.
Are you abusive? Current advice for people in abusive relationships is to just go straight to court.
Anonymous
08/28/2024 18:38
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Got it, you are desperate to find a way to stick it to him. Go for it. Don’t worry if you hurt the kids.
Jeff I’m not sure what has happened to DCUM. This used to be a place I could come to for advice. Now it’s full of mentally ill trolls. I’ve been using DCUM for 15 years and user experience seems to be drastically declining in quality.
Fwiw, my ex refused to budge in mediation even though I bent over backwards to compromise. He wanted to go to court even though we proposed a parent coordinator in mediation. We told him court would mean a CE or GAL, and that they would most likely recommend joint custody (ex has manipulated situation and lied to the point kids don’t want to cross him and I can’t get them on my time). Perhaps he didn’t understand that once it got to court it would no longer be his decision, but a judge’s.
So, basically, you are bullying him by threatening him if he doesn't do what you want, you will get a GAL. I can understand why he'd rather go to court than keep negotiating with you if you wish to call it that. He is better off taking his chances with a judge depending on hwhat youa re offering. If you could agree on things, you wouldn't need a mediator. He doesn't feel your offer is fair.
You have major issues wow.
The GAL is because exDH refuses joint custody. He only wants full. No compromise in mediation at all.
What do you think the GAL will do?
Recommend joint custody of course. There’s no reason not to, ex doesn’t want to pay child support so is attempting to have full and has repeatedly kept kids from me during my time with them. Fwiw ex was the one who wanted to go to court for some reason rather than settle in mediation. Delusional maybe?
But you still have to go to trial….not sure how you think a GAL strengthens your case.
Anonymous
08/28/2024 18:28
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Don't you both have the same kids to lose? Or does he currently have full custody or something?
We had a custody evaluation, and a GAL but my case abruptly became open and shut part way through.
Open and shut?
Yes, unfortunately something happened that was significant enough that CPS testified in court and there is now a restraining order that means he can't be within 50 feet of the children. As a result, I now have 100% physical and legal custody.
Anonymous
08/28/2024 18:18
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Got it, you are desperate to find a way to stick it to him. Go for it. Don’t worry if you hurt the kids.
Jeff I’m not sure what has happened to DCUM. This used to be a place I could come to for advice. Now it’s full of mentally ill trolls. I’ve been using DCUM for 15 years and user experience seems to be drastically declining in quality.
Fwiw, my ex refused to budge in mediation even though I bent over backwards to compromise. He wanted to go to court even though we proposed a parent coordinator in mediation. We told him court would mean a CE or GAL, and that they would most likely recommend joint custody (ex has manipulated situation and lied to the point kids don’t want to cross him and I can’t get them on my time). Perhaps he didn’t understand that once it got to court it would no longer be his decision, but a judge’s.
So, basically, you are bullying him by threatening him if he doesn't do what you want, you will get a GAL. I can understand why he'd rather go to court than keep negotiating with you if you wish to call it that. He is better off taking his chances with a judge depending on hwhat youa re offering. If you could agree on things, you wouldn't need a mediator. He doesn't feel your offer is fair.
You have major issues wow.
The GAL is because exDH refuses joint custody. He only wants full. No compromise in mediation at all.
What do you think the GAL will do?
Recommend joint custody of course. There’s no reason not to, ex doesn’t want to pay child support so is attempting to have full and has repeatedly kept kids from me during my time with them. Fwiw ex was the one who wanted to go to court for some reason rather than settle in mediation. Delusional maybe?
Anonymous
08/28/2024 13:06
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Got it, you are desperate to find a way to stick it to him. Go for it. Don’t worry if you hurt the kids.
Jeff I’m not sure what has happened to DCUM. This used to be a place I could come to for advice. Now it’s full of mentally ill trolls. I’ve been using DCUM for 15 years and user experience seems to be drastically declining in quality.
Fwiw, my ex refused to budge in mediation even though I bent over backwards to compromise. He wanted to go to court even though we proposed a parent coordinator in mediation. We told him court would mean a CE or GAL, and that they would most likely recommend joint custody (ex has manipulated situation and lied to the point kids don’t want to cross him and I can’t get them on my time). Perhaps he didn’t understand that once it got to court it would no longer be his decision, but a judge’s.
So, basically, you are bullying him by threatening him if he doesn't do what you want, you will get a GAL. I can understand why he'd rather go to court than keep negotiating with you if you wish to call it that. He is better off taking his chances with a judge depending on hwhat youa re offering. If you could agree on things, you wouldn't need a mediator. He doesn't feel your offer is fair.
You have major issues wow.
The GAL is because exDH refuses joint custody. He only wants full. No compromise in mediation at all.
What do you think the GAL will do?
Anonymous
08/28/2024 13:05
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
I wouldn’t request a GAL or a parenting coordinator at all. And I’m a lawyer. Just because you think you are right OP doesn’t mean thay the GAL or parenting coordinator will agree with you. And now you’ve let a basically untrained and unaccountable person into your life and given them power over you. It’s bad enough to have to have a judge decide, but with a judge, at least everything happens out in the open with your lawyer there and a trained professional deciding.
Anonymous
08/28/2024 12:17
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Don't you both have the same kids to lose? Or does he currently have full custody or something?
We had a custody evaluation, and a GAL but my case abruptly became open and shut part way through.
Open and shut?
Anonymous
08/27/2024 19:47
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Don't you both have the same kids to lose? Or does he currently have full custody or something?
We had a custody evaluation, and a GAL but my case abruptly became open and shut part way through.
Anonymous
08/27/2024 19:43
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Got it, you are desperate to find a way to stick it to him. Go for it. Don’t worry if you hurt the kids.
Jeff I’m not sure what has happened to DCUM. This used to be a place I could come to for advice. Now it’s full of mentally ill trolls. I’ve been using DCUM for 15 years and user experience seems to be drastically declining in quality.
Fwiw, my ex refused to budge in mediation even though I bent over backwards to compromise. He wanted to go to court even though we proposed a parent coordinator in mediation. We told him court would mean a CE or GAL, and that they would most likely recommend joint custody (ex has manipulated situation and lied to the point kids don’t want to cross him and I can’t get them on my time). Perhaps he didn’t understand that once it got to court it would no longer be his decision, but a judge’s.
So, basically, you are bullying him by threatening him if he doesn't do what you want, you will get a GAL. I can understand why he'd rather go to court than keep negotiating with you if you wish to call it that. He is better off taking his chances with a judge depending on hwhat youa re offering. If you could agree on things, you wouldn't need a mediator. He doesn't feel your offer is fair.
You have major issues wow.
The GAL is because exDH refuses joint custody. He only wants full. No compromise in mediation at all.
Anonymous
08/16/2024 01:23
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Got it, you are desperate to find a way to stick it to him. Go for it. Don’t worry if you hurt the kids.
Jeff I’m not sure what has happened to DCUM. This used to be a place I could come to for advice. Now it’s full of mentally ill trolls. I’ve been using DCUM for 15 years and user experience seems to be drastically declining in quality.
Fwiw, my ex refused to budge in mediation even though I bent over backwards to compromise. He wanted to go to court even though we proposed a parent coordinator in mediation. We told him court would mean a CE or GAL, and that they would most likely recommend joint custody (ex has manipulated situation and lied to the point kids don’t want to cross him and I can’t get them on my time). Perhaps he didn’t understand that once it got to court it would no longer be his decision, but a judge’s.
So, basically, you are bullying him by threatening him if he doesn't do what you want, you will get a GAL. I can understand why he'd rather go to court than keep negotiating with you if you wish to call it that. He is better off taking his chances with a judge depending on hwhat youa re offering. If you could agree on things, you wouldn't need a mediator. He doesn't feel your offer is fair.
Anonymous
08/15/2024 23:01
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Got it, you are desperate to find a way to stick it to him. Go for it. Don’t worry if you hurt the kids.
Jeff I’m not sure what has happened to DCUM. This used to be a place I could come to for advice. Now it’s full of mentally ill trolls. I’ve been using DCUM for 15 years and user experience seems to be drastically declining in quality.
Fwiw, my ex refused to budge in mediation even though I bent over backwards to compromise. He wanted to go to court even though we proposed a parent coordinator in mediation. We told him court would mean a CE or GAL, and that they would most likely recommend joint custody (ex has manipulated situation and lied to the point kids don’t want to cross him and I can’t get them on my time). Perhaps he didn’t understand that once it got to court it would no longer be his decision, but a judge’s.
Anonymous
08/15/2024 22:33
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
Anonymous wrote:My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Got it, you are desperate to find a way to stick it to him. Go for it. Don’t worry if you hurt the kids.
Anonymous
08/15/2024 20:13
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
My ex has more to lose. Just not sure if it'll ease or create more tension in the process.
Anonymous
08/15/2024 19:23
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
It either will be beneficial or the Guardian Ad Litem will side with one party and you could lose big time. Your ex is right.
Anonymous
08/15/2024 12:42
Subject: Guardian Ad Litem
I requested one for my divorce case and exDH opposed. How will this turn out?