Anonymous
08/09/2024 12:23
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
Anonymous wrote:You aren't interested in self pleasure. And if you try you get bored.
What about when you watch erotica?
Nothing?
Anonymous
08/09/2024 11:52
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
You regard sex the way you would regard, say, giving a backrub. A nice thing to do for someone you love but not really doing much of anything for YOU.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 11:47
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
Anonymous wrote:I think saying it feels like nothing is pretty accurate. I've gone through periods of low libido, and it's not that I want to stay in bed all day. I go about daily life just fine. Work, home, chores, going out, etc. Just dont think about or crave sex or get turned on. But I'm also usually not trying to, it's easy enough to avoid if I didnt feel like it. So just... carrying on without sex.
What about self pleasure? Was there any of that?
Anonymous
08/09/2024 11:46
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
You aren't interested in self pleasure. And if you try you get bored.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 11:24
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
I think saying it feels like nothing is pretty accurate. I've gone through periods of low libido, and it's not that I want to stay in bed all day. I go about daily life just fine. Work, home, chores, going out, etc. Just dont think about or crave sex or get turned on. But I'm also usually not trying to, it's easy enough to avoid if I didnt feel like it. So just... carrying on without sex.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 10:54
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
Anonymous wrote:A lot of time “low libido” is really just a woman whose partner prefers a higher frequency and pathologizers her. It’s not low relative to some absolute baseline. Like I happily had 1x/week when my kid was a baby and really enjoyed it but ex whined about my “low libido.” To me it was fine. There was absolutely nothing biologically wrong with my body and 1x/week when you’re still breastfeeding is quite normal.
I’d say “low libido” has to be characterized as relative to your own normal. But you still have to distinguish between biological and psychological. When my ex was getting abusive I still had libido in terms of biology but absolutely no desire for sex with HIM and would have completely physically shut down if he tried.
Libido (if defined as motivation to have sex) can also be impacted by physiology. What’s REALLY weird is having a desire for sex but your genitals don’t work - that’s what happened to me on Lexapro. Like, nothing connected properly below even though I still had feeling. Eventually the inability/great difficulty in being able to O makes you give up trying much so you don’t have any libido. (Although for a while I was really trying which is its own weird thing!)
But there are times when it all goes away - both physical and mental desire. For me hormonal birth control did that.
All this. Great post pp.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 10:51
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
A lot of time “low libido” is really just a woman whose partner prefers a higher frequency and pathologizers her. It’s not low relative to some absolute baseline. Like I happily had 1x/week when my kid was a baby and really enjoyed it but ex whined about my “low libido.” To me it was fine. There was absolutely nothing biologically wrong with my body and 1x/week when you’re still breastfeeding is quite normal.
I’d say “low libido” has to be characterized as relative to your own normal. But you still have to distinguish between biological and psychological. When my ex was getting abusive I still had libido in terms of biology but absolutely no desire for sex with HIM and would have completely physically shut down if he tried.
Libido (if defined as motivation to have sex) can also be impacted by physiology. What’s REALLY weird is having a desire for sex but your genitals don’t work - that’s what happened to me on Lexapro. Like, nothing connected properly below even though I still had feeling. Eventually the inability/great difficulty in being able to O makes you give up trying much so you don’t have any libido. (Although for a while I was really trying which is its own weird thing!)
But there are times when it all goes away - both physical and mental desire. For me hormonal birth control did that.
I’d say “low libido” has to be characterized as relative to your own normal. But you still have to distinguish between biological and psychological. When my ex was getting abusive I still had libido in terms of biology but absolutely no desire for sex with HIM and would have completely physically shut down if he tried.
Libido (if defined as motivation to have sex) can also be impacted by physiology. What’s REALLY weird is having a desire for sex but your genitals don’t work - that’s what happened to me on Lexapro. Like, nothing connected properly below even though I still had feeling. Eventually the inability/great difficulty in being able to O makes you give up trying much so you don’t have any libido. (Although for a while I was really trying which is its own weird thing!)
But there are times when it all goes away - both physical and mental desire. For me hormonal birth control did that.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 10:40
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
Anonymous wrote:It feels like lack of sexual desire. No looking forward to sex, no sexual zing.
This is basically it.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 10:39
Subject: Re:How does low libido feels like?
Let me ask my wife and I will get back to you.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 09:56
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
It feels like lack of sexual desire. No looking forward to sex, no sexual zing.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 09:54
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
For me, in menopause, it was like being a kid again, before puberty.
Simply never thought about it.
Simply never thought about it.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 09:51
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
Anonymous wrote:Is it like I would rather sleep or is it I would rather clean the bathroom ?
This is going to be completely different for each person who experiences it, OP. But I'd wager that for most it can't be compared to how it might "feel like" something else. It's an absence of a feeling, not a preference like "I'd rather" be doing something else.
If you're experiencing what you would call low libido, don't waste time online trying to figure that out or self-diagnose. Strangers can't tell you how it's "supposed" to feel. Get to a doctor. Just by the way, if you're a woman and you are currently on hormonal birth control of any type (the pill, etc.) -- hormonal BC can, in some women, suppress libido. See your gynecologist ASAP to talk about lower-dose BC or other options. I add this because the pill definitley suppresed my libido and I know other women who had the same result from it. Once I was off it, wow, what a difference. If BC is not playing a role for you, still see your gyn first (if you're a woman) and/or a doctor.
If you're a man, also see a doctor; low T can affect libido and there are things you can do to help with that.
Stress can also have a huge negative impact on libido, so sit down and think through your current stressors, including ones you might think are just normal life stresses like juggling kids' schedules, career stuff, etc.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 09:38
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
Anonymous wrote:Is it like I would rather sleep or is it I would rather clean the bathroom ?
I'd rather sleep at night.
I'd rather clean the bathroom during the day.
I'd rather sit on my phone in the evening.
It's the same feeling as not wanting to go read the encyclopedia in Greek.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 09:31
Subject: Re:How does low libido feels like?
I'd rather sleep is depression.
I'd rather clean the bathroom is anxiety.
Low libido has no feelings.
I'd rather clean the bathroom is anxiety.
Low libido has no feelings.
Anonymous
08/09/2024 09:28
Subject: How does low libido feels like?
Is it like I would rather sleep or is it I would rather clean the bathroom ?