How long are you away for? If it’s weeks, then I can see her wanting to see him. Is she asking if he can be at the house at all or is she asking if he can stay there with her?

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want any strangers in my home without me there. Just because you have met him a few times (?) doesn’t mean you know him. In addition to the access to the children, I have financial docs in my home that aren’t anyone’s business.

I have never met the boyfriend. Dh has met him once. My kids have never met him either.

I do not feel comfortable having this man stay in my house with my kids while I am overseas.

I wouldn’t want any strangers in my home without me there. Just because you have met him a few times (?) doesn’t mean you know him. In addition to the access to the children, I have financial docs in my home that aren’t anyone’s business.

How old are they? For how long?

I wouldn’t want strange men around my kids, so I’d say no but your MIL might back out.

Expect that she’ll say no

You trust her judgment to watch your kids….?
It’s your right but if I were her I would say no thank you to babysitting for you.

Overnight? No way would I want a new boyfriend of any care giving spending the night while I'm away from the kids.

It's not about MIL being and adult. It's about protecting your kids in your absence.

Tell her you're happy to have the whole family spend time getting to know her new beau but this isn't the time.

You can say no but be prepared for her to back out of childcare.

I would say no. My mom's boyfriend is just weird and unfriendly.

Petty AF.

She's not an immature teenager. She raised your whole ass husband.

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her you don’t feel comfortable with this. If there is time to make other childcare arrangements then I’d offer that as well.

+1

You can say no--and I would too--but you also have to accept if she decides not to come.

Just tell her you don’t feel comfortable with this. If there is time to make other childcare arrangements then I’d offer that as well.

Dh and I asked MIL to watch our kids (teens) while we go away. She has done this many times over the years. She likes to visit and see the grandchildren. Recently she has a new boyfriend and asked if she can bring him while she watches the kids.

Dh and I both prefer not. We prefer just MIL to come. I wouldn’t want her to bring a non romantic friend either.