Anonymous wrote:Hire a professional. An expensive one. That will keep it no strings attached, no emotional issues, no jealousy and ability to set clear boundaries with an experienced and safe setting.

this is how we would do it. Way less drama.

I did this with an ex bf and the whole thing kinda blew up. It was actually his fantasy and we met this fun and really hot couple at a resort. One thing led to another and it ended up causing a huge fight.

Hire a professional. An expensive one. That will keep it no strings attached, no emotional issues, no jealousy and ability to set clear boundaries with an experienced and safe setting.

Anonymous wrote:On a related issue, have any couples over 50 experimented with a threesome for the first time? We’re a little curious about it now that we have an empty nest situation, wondering what kind of experiences people have had with it. Our past is not adventurous so we don’t really have a good way to evaluate the idea.

I've been in mfm 3 somes in my 20's, 30's, and 50's with various aged partners.
As long as the woman is doing it for the right reasons (she's curious, turned on, etc) they are a blast for all concerned.
-Guy, 60s

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a female and it ended my relationship. If you bring a third person in make sure you set very clear boundaries from the start. Including in how and who you add to the mix.

Come on - you need to explain what happened.

BF wanted to bring in a third party so he could "watch" me with the added guy. It was a fantasy of his. It should have stayed that way because he didn't really enjoy watching as much as he thought he would. Kind of turned jealous and was upset with me even though it was his idea. We also didn't set boundaries on who we were going to bring to the mix and boundaries around the act itself. Lesson learned for us both.

We too are recent empty nesters and there are many ways to enliven your love life without the risk of a threesome. Just use your imagination or something like the Kama Sutra or toys to get things going. There is no reason that sex after 20 years of marriage should be boring.

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Anonymous wrote:We actually talked about this awhile ago in a joking way but we couldn’t agree on the third person being a man or a woman so nothing came of it. I’d actually consider another woman but then my husband would likely ask “who” and I don’t want to go there.

Get on a dating app and find someone else outside your circle of friends/acquaintances/colleagues. Don't mix crowds.

A woman here - I was asked by ENM men to “join” on apps and was never interested. I wonder how these women look like who would agree. Are they ugly ?

Anonymous wrote:We actually talked about this awhile ago in a joking way but we couldn’t agree on the third person being a man or a woman so nothing came of it. I’d actually consider another woman but then my husband would likely ask “who” and I don’t want to go there.

Get on a dating app and find someone else outside your circle of friends/acquaintances/colleagues. Don't mix crowds.

We actually talked about this awhile ago in a joking way but we couldn’t agree on the third person being a man or a woman so nothing came of it. I’d actually consider another woman but then my husband would likely ask “who” and I don’t want to go there.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a female and it ended my relationship. If you bring a third person in make sure you set very clear boundaries from the start. Including in how and who you add to the mix.

Come on - you need to explain what happened.

I’m a female and it ended my relationship. If you bring a third person in make sure you set very clear boundaries from the start. Including in how and who you add to the mix.

Just wanted to say I love this forum the last few days.

Very entertaining!

Yes, and it was a one time surprise. We invited a GF of mine to joins us for the last few days of a trip to Europe. On the last night, to thank us, she invited us to her room for a late night bottle of champagne. I’ll skip the details of how, but we ended up having a threesome. It was my only time with a woman and my husbands only time with two. We agreed that once was enough but it was certainly memorable. The risk it can bring to a marriage just isn’t worth it and we can be adventurous in many other ways.

I have been the 3rd a number of times with couples over 50. I was in my 20s and 30s at the time and it was great. A few ended up being a regular thing but most were looing for a thrill and a one time thing. I am a male btw.

On a related issue, have any couples over 50 experimented with a threesome for the first time? We’re a little curious about it now that we have an empty nest situation, wondering what kind of experiences people have had with it. Our past is not adventurous so we don’t really have a good way to evaluate the idea.