I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.

People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.

My 15yr old has never shaven her legs and neither do her friends

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she wants electric. I carved my legs up trying in 6th grade.

Funny - I was given an electric razor for Hanukah (maybe in 6th or 7th) by my mom and didn't know how to use it so never did (I guess it never occurred to her to show me how or ask if I needed help understanding how to use ir or read the directions). Of all people, it was my older brother who told me how to shave my legs with a disposable razor. I figured out under my arms.

Nowadays, they can just Google how to do things like that.

My rising 7th grade DD hasn’t asked yet. She is blond and her hair is fine so it’s not very noticeable.

Her 9 year old very thick, dark haired sister is already asking when she can start. I will probably let her in 4th grade. I remember my sister being teased mercilessly for having “monkey legs” at the same age. My parents let her shave, thankfully. I’m sure I’ll be shelling out for laser hair removal eventually!

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she wants electric. I carved my legs up trying in 6th grade.

Funny - I was given an electric razor for Hanukah (maybe in 6th or 7th) by my mom and didn't know how to use it so never did (I guess it never occurred to her to show me how or ask if I needed help understanding how to use ir or read the directions). Of all people, it was my older brother who told me how to shave my legs with a disposable razor. I figured out under my arms.

DD just returned from summer camp. She stayed with a same-age (high school) friend who does not shave at all.

DD was a bit shocked at how much hair stuck out from the other girl’s bikini bottom. And the other girls unshaven pits were also a bit much at the pool.

DD is definitely sticking to shaving, or at least trimming, sensitive areas.

I noticed one day that my 4th grader no longer had hair on her legs! She had used a random razor she found in the house. We talked about why that’s not safe. Now she shaves regularly during shorts season but not much other times. Because she does shave her legs, I did once ask her if she wanted to shave her underarms. She has some fine longer hair there. She said no and that’s fine with me. If she hadn’t started shaving on her own, I would not have asked her. I just have always been open that I shave and she could start whenever she wanted.

I had so much drama with my own mother about that and upper lip etc. I’ll support my child in whatever she wants to do and whenever, as it relates to this!

Around 12 I just purchased the razors and shaving cream, let her know that I had left them in the bathroom, and that I was available if she wanted to talk or ask questions. I really really really wish my own mother hadn't made me ask her. I was so embarrassed about it as a teenager for some reason.

We're blonds, so not such a big deal. If we had darker hair I would probably have done it earlier.

Maybe she wants electric. I carved my legs up trying in 6th grade.

My never brought it up. Around 7th grade I put a razor in her bathroom and told her it’s hers and how/where to use it if she feels the need. But that it’s entirely up to her and she doesn’t need to.

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Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.

Maybe the hair doesn't bother her. A way to bring it up casually if you watch TV and see a shaving ad could say "if you want to shave you can but if you don't want to that's totally okay, lots of girls and women don't shave." Then don't bring it up agsin unless she does.
Or if your watching a movie where there's a shaving scene. Could say above after the movie is over, especially if you talk about the movie after.

Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.

Waited.

End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

Did you wait for your DD to ask about shaving her legs or did you mention at some point she "can if she want to." I would never say "should," but am starting to wonder if DD is waiting for me to raise it.