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Anonymous wrote:Most top colleges are like this. The richest students, across incomes, hang out with one another. The athletes, usually white outside of mainstream sports, hang out with one another. The Middle Class figure it out. The fgli hang out with the fgli.

All colleges are like this.

This was not me or DC's experience at our ivies.

It’s a weird statement…the theatre arts kids at my Ivy all mainly hung out together too. Not shocking.

Rich people find each other , but it’s not like rich legacies shun rich non-legacies (there are actually many non-rich legacies too).

Anonymous wrote:Most top colleges are like this. The richest students, across incomes, hang out with one another. The athletes, usually white outside of mainstream sports, hang out with one another. The Middle Class figure it out. The fgli hang out with the fgli.

All colleges are like this.

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So called 'connections' is BS for the most part for normal middle class folks.

This is DC's experience at Bowdoin. All her friends are solidly middle class down to low income, but there's whole swaths of CEO daughters and trust fund kids who latch to each other throughout the four years and are very careful with who they get close with. There's also clear class distinction between those who went to Philips Academies and Grotons, so you really go to these places to take the resources from the institution, unless you're wealthy and your friend, whose dad is CEO of Boeing, can get you an in.

Anonymous wrote:My DS just saw some friends from HS who go to Princeton, Duke and Dartmouth. He reports that all three (boys) say that the only people they hang with are either legacies or athletes.

All three are legacies.

I don’t find this at all surprising as kids from similar backgrounds tend to hang together but it’s also so disappointing and telling about those schools.

FWIW, my son goes to a big public and yes, his friends are mostly white but not mostly legacies or athletes.

I have a kid at at a T100ish private university and one at a top flagship and it is the same situation. Like attracts like. I don't see what is disappointing and telling.

Anonymous wrote:My DS just saw some friends from HS who go to Princeton, Duke and Dartmouth. He reports that all three (boys) say that the only people they hang with are either legacies or athletes.

All three are legacies.

I don’t find this at all surprising as kids from similar backgrounds tend to hang together but it’s also so disappointing and telling about those schools.

FWIW, my son goes to a big public and yes, his friends are mostly white but not mostly legacies or athletes.

Are you new to the USA?

Anonymous wrote:Cool story.

+1

So called 'connections' is BS for the most part for normal middle class folks.

Most top colleges are like this. The richest students, across incomes, hang out with one another. The athletes, usually white outside of mainstream sports, hang out with one another. The Middle Class figure it out. The fgli hang out with the fgli.

Team sports people are cliquey by nature and they have to spend a lot of time together and have common schedules. No surprise there.

That's a lot of data to support some hypothesis. Perhaps submit it as a dissertation.

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Get a lifec

Cool story.

My DS just saw some friends from HS who go to Princeton, Duke and Dartmouth. He reports that all three (boys) say that the only people they hang with are either legacies or athletes.

All three are legacies.

I don’t find this at all surprising as kids from similar backgrounds tend to hang together but it’s also so disappointing and telling about those schools.

FWIW, my son goes to a big public and yes, his friends are mostly white but not mostly legacies or athletes.