An awful lot of “I know a guy who…” posts.

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Anonymous wrote:My brother basically had a botched circumcision at birth and got re-circumcised at 6yo. The healing process was painful, but same as your son, it was necessary. I'm 5 years older than my brother and O remember it pretty vividly. My mom felt horrible. Do it in the summer so he can heal out of school.

Ughhh my DS is only 4 but this happened to him. It's not an issue yet so urologist said surgery can wait but once he starts getting erections it will need to be revised. Really sad for him and this thread is making me so nervous now.

4 year olds get erections

No idea, doctor just said it probably wouldn't be an issue for several more years

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Anonymous wrote:My brother basically had a botched circumcision at birth and got re-circumcised at 6yo. The healing process was painful, but same as your son, it was necessary. I'm 5 years older than my brother and O remember it pretty vividly. My mom felt horrible. Do it in the summer so he can heal out of school.

Ughhh my DS is only 4 but this happened to him. It's not an issue yet so urologist said surgery can wait but once he starts getting erections it will need to be revised. Really sad for him and this thread is making me so nervous now.

4 year olds get erections

Anonymous wrote:My brother basically had a botched circumcision at birth and got re-circumcised at 6yo. The healing process was painful, but same as your son, it was necessary. I'm 5 years older than my brother and O remember it pretty vividly. My mom felt horrible. Do it in the summer so he can heal out of school.

Ughhh my DS is only 4 but this happened to him. It's not an issue yet so urologist said surgery can wait but once he starts getting erections it will need to be revised. Really sad for him and this thread is making me so nervous now.

My best friend had to be circumcised when we were around your son’s age. Of course, I don’t remember exactly why as this was about 30 years ago. However, I do remember he constantly had trouble peeing. His foreskin would balloon up as he would pee, and it would take a little longer for all the pee to come out of the opening.

I had it done almost 20 years ago at 17 due to non-stop infections, so my tips might not help, but here they are-- I wore normal briefs (the “tightey-whitey” style) as my normal boxer briefs were too loose. I put some gauze in around my penis for a few days to ensure that the stitches didn’t catch on my underwear and to keep sort of a soft padding too. Have him where he won’t move around too much his first day or two afterwards as too much movement may make it sore. Try to encourage him not to touch it too much for the first few days as well as it can be very sore. I would sit to pee, to make sure I didn’t touch it any more than necessary. I was nervous about cleaning it after the bandages came off, but it was simple like any other time I would clean it in the bath or shower. And of course, follow any care procedures you are given. It may seem a little traumatic the first day or two, especially how his penis may look when done. But it will get better over time.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a man who had this done around the same age because the skin didn’t go back when they thought it “should” have by now. And long after they did it, they realized from another doctor that it probably would have been fine in another few years. He wishes it was not done, since he lost a lot of sensitivity and found it almost impossible to use condoms later on. I would consult several doctors rather than trusting one or two.

I would also get a second opinion from Peds urologist before going through with it. You don’t mention what the issue is. But a more common issue some boys have is the foreskin fails to retract properly. My son had this. It retracted fine from toddler age until a couple yrs before puberty, but then it got too tight to retract fully. But it wasn’t painful and didn’t cause any urination issues. The peds urologist told us we could do a circ, but there would be a good chance that the tightness would resolve with puberty. Since it wasn’t giving him any problems, we opted to wait and see, and it did end up resolving in time.

Same for our DS. He got circumcised later by the dr. It was a surgery. In his early teens. Recovery was ok. He was alright.

Anonymous wrote:I know a man who had this done around the same age because the skin didn’t go back when they thought it “should” have by now. And long after they did it, they realized from another doctor that it probably would have been fine in another few years. He wishes it was not done, since he lost a lot of sensitivity and found it almost impossible to use condoms later on. I would consult several doctors rather than trusting one or two.

I would also get a second opinion from Peds urologist before going through with it. You don’t mention what the issue is. But a more common issue some boys have is the foreskin fails to retract properly. My son had this. It retracted fine from toddler age until a couple yrs before puberty, but then it got too tight to retract fully. But it wasn’t painful and didn’t cause any urination issues. The peds urologist told us we could do a circ, but there would be a good chance that the tightness would resolve with puberty. Since it wasn’t giving him any problems, we opted to wait and see, and it did end up resolving in time.

Anonymous wrote:I know a man who had this done around the same age because the skin didn’t go back when they thought it “should” have by now. And long after they did it, they realized from another doctor that it probably would have been fine in another few years. He wishes it was not done, since he lost a lot of sensitivity and found it almost impossible to use condoms later on. I would consult several doctors rather than trusting one or two.

Lol so the 11 year old noticed that before he was circumcised he was able to use condoms? Get out of here anti circ troll

Yeah I would definitely get at least a 2nd opinion.

A lot of American urologists are really inexperienced with intact penises.

I know a man who had this done around the same age because the skin didn’t go back when they thought it “should” have by now. And long after they did it, they realized from another doctor that it probably would have been fine in another few years. He wishes it was not done, since he lost a lot of sensitivity and found it almost impossible to use condoms later on. I would consult several doctors rather than trusting one or two.

Anonymous wrote:It's going to hurt a LOT. Like, the pain receptors are more developed now than as a newborn. Give him ice cream, ice for his balls and all the screen time he wants as a distraction.

Why would icing his scrotum help the glans heal?

My brother basically had a botched circumcision at birth and got re-circumcised at 6yo. The healing process was painful, but same as your son, it was necessary. I'm 5 years older than my brother and O remember it pretty vividly. My mom felt horrible. Do it in the summer so he can heal out of school.

It's going to hurt a LOT. Like, the pain receptors are more developed now than as a newborn. Give him ice cream, ice for his balls and all the screen time he wants as a distraction.

Don’t feel bad. He has a rare problem. Just like boys that are circumcised can have rare problems/complications.

He’ll be ok. Plan for a lot of rest. He will need to avoid swimming for several weeks.

For reasons I won't get into, he needs to be circumcised. I very much wish we had done so at birth but here we are. I feel awful for him. And no, it wasn't for lack of care. Apparently this can happen with some uncircumcised boys regardless of hygiene and he's one of the unlucky ones.

Scheduled for a follow up later today to potentially have him circumcised as soon as tomorrow. I thought I'd ask in here if anyone has similar experience with this at around this age because I feel like a failure as a parent that this is happening to him.