Anonymous wrote:What is the point of living to an old age if you're in a strange place, not in your home, living in a place paid for by Medicare, which will be awful? If she's happy where she it, she should stay and just take the risks, honestly. That's my plan. My mother moved into one of those graduated living situations near hear favored daughter, who then died months later. Now she has everything wrapped up in that place, living in memory care, three hours from me. I never see or talk to her, because she can't even answer the telephone or have a conversation. And I work fulltime with two teenagers, so going there often is out of the question. So I ask you, what was the point? She sits around by herself day in and day out. If she had stayed in her home, I could visit her and she'd be in her home, where she was comfortable. Assisted living is a sad life, especially if it's medicare.
Because, she has Parkinson's and she is not a place to completely take care of herself. She also does not qualify for a Medicaid facility at this point anyway. We are trying to prolong that part as long as we can. She has already fallen in the middle of the night and had to sit there until someone came to help her. She lives in a very, rural place so home health services etc... are extremely limited. Staying in her home is not an option.