Anonymous wrote:I went to a stylist who does gray blending; she added a gazillion of highlights and lowlights of various colors. It’s been about 2 months and the gray and brown that’s growing in, is blending. I’ve used a shampoo for colored hair avoided being in the sun, and it still looks non brassy.
Drawback is that it cost me over 500 with a quick cut, before tip.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have similar hair and I do a demi perm color at home that is a neutral tone dark blonde. I do it once a month and do not get brassy tones except occasionally in the summer due to time in the pool (worth it to me).

The key was going lighter. Instead of a mid brown I accepted that the graying hair was making my hair lighter overall and just accepted blonde. The thing is that using dark blonde with a neutral (so not golden and not ash) tone means that it basically comes out a light brown. But unlike brown hair dye which tends to look unnatural on top of gray hair the dark blonde dye marries the tones in my natural brow and in the incoming grays much better.

After some trial and error this is the one I use: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07KRTL39B/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title

Occasionally in the summer I will do this one as my hair gets lighter in the summer: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07KRTBKDG/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_image

I know it looks way lighter than the first one but it actually only looks a smidge lighter on my hair. I buy these in bulk and have gotten very good at home application and while they don't absolutely eliminate my grays they soften it considerably and my hair looks healthy and polished. I get compliments on it including from my stylist. And it's much gentler on my hair than trying to dye it brown and highlight it (plus waaaaaaay cheaper).


OP here -- this would be so amazing if it works. Do you color all over your hair the first time, and then just do the roots for a while?

Anonymous wrote:I went to a stylist who does gray blending; she added a gazillion of highlights and lowlights of various colors. It’s been about 2 months and the gray and brown that’s growing in, is blending. I’ve used a shampoo for colored hair avoided being in the sun, and it still looks non brassy.
Drawback is that it cost me over 500 with a quick cut, before tip.

Anonymous wrote:I have similar hair and I do a demi perm color at home that is a neutral tone dark blonde. I do it once a month and do not get brassy tones except occasionally in the summer due to time in the pool (worth it to me).

The key was going lighter. Instead of a mid brown I accepted that the graying hair was making my hair lighter overall and just accepted blonde. The thing is that using dark blonde with a neutral (so not golden and not ash) tone means that it basically comes out a light brown. But unlike brown hair dye which tends to look unnatural on top of gray hair the dark blonde dye marries the tones in my natural brow and in the incoming grays much better.

After some trial and error this is the one I use: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07KRTL39B/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title

Occasionally in the summer I will do this one as my hair gets lighter in the summer: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07KRTBKDG/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_image

I know it looks way lighter than the first one but it actually only looks a smidge lighter on my hair. I buy these in bulk and have gotten very good at home application and while they don't absolutely eliminate my grays they soften it considerably and my hair looks healthy and polished. I get compliments on it including from my stylist. And it's much gentler on my hair than trying to dye it brown and highlight it (plus waaaaaaay cheaper).


OP here -- this would be so amazing if it works. Do you color all over your hair the first time, and then just do the roots for a while?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've just started with a new stylist, and we are a couple of sessions in with demi vs. perm color. So far, I'm really happy with how graceful the grow out/fade has been compared to the harsh line from perm color. The new growth is nowhere near as warm as the old color. The gloss tones down the warmth on the length of my hair but it is going to be a long process to grow it out, but I'm very happy with it so far.

The Demi color will fade warm and brassy too in time and will need toning. Maybe not as brassy as the permanent, but there is no good way to keep gray hair a medium brown

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've just started with a new stylist, and we are a couple of sessions in with demi vs. perm color. So far, I'm really happy with how graceful the grow out/fade has been compared to the harsh line from perm color. The new growth is nowhere near as warm as the old color. The gloss tones down the warmth on the length of my hair but it is going to be a long process to grow it out, but I'm very happy with it so far.

The Demi color will fade warm and brassy too in time and will need toning. Maybe not as brassy as the permanent, but there is no good way to keep gray hair a medium brown

Anonymous wrote:I've just started with a new stylist, and we are a couple of sessions in with demi vs. perm color. So far, I'm really happy with how graceful the grow out/fade has been compared to the harsh line from perm color. The new growth is nowhere near as warm as the old color. The gloss tones down the warmth on the length of my hair but it is going to be a long process to grow it out, but I'm very happy with it so far.