Anonymous wrote:Geez, Louise! Good thing you are not my wife. You sound pedantic and controlling. What, do you audit all your man's activities? You are like a cat and mouse, or you enjoy being a private investigator? How does anyone trust or love you?

NP. She is also very glad she is not your wife.

This question is about whether she married the type of guy she thought she married or one of your types.

OP, it’s a big deal, especially the fact that he “doesn’t remember.”

Trust your gut.

If you go to a strip club and your wife finds and says nothing or claims it's okay you are in big trouble lol....she is not going to forget in 6 months she will bring it up package it with another long standing issue and that's a start of countdown to something bad lol

I do not know a lot married woman who will be okay with another woman giving you a lap dance and all kind of other sensual and erotic touch....

A guy once told me he went to a porn convention that his fiance didn't know about. He also did end up cheating on her before the porn convention.

I would be very upset.

He was probably embarrassed by his poor choice of a club.

Geez, Louise! Good thing you are not my wife. You sound pedantic and controlling. What, do you audit all your man's activities? You are like a cat and mouse, or you enjoy being a private investigator? How does anyone trust or love you?

Culturally it's very normal in Atlanta. Men go to strip clubs for business meetings (and ... strip club stuff). To some men, it's no big deal. To some men, it's something they do once to try it and feel sleazy and never go again.

For your husband to be getting so drunk he doesn't recall going to a strip club sounds like (a lie) its own problem within itself. Perhaps he needs to get his drinking under control.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you scared of

Not trusting him again.

Then you have bigger issues that go beyond him staring at a naked vagina and having titties shaking in his face.

In vegas much MUCH more happens than that.

He's put his fingers IN some other ladies. But it's what you do when you're there. It's fine. Move on.

Was he with a group from work or on his own? How much money was spent? Can you check past credit card statements?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you scared of

Not trusting him again.

Then you have bigger issues that go beyond him staring at a naked vagina and having titties shaking in his face.

So if it’s NBD, why hide it?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you scared of

Not trusting him again.

Then you have bigger issues that go beyond him staring at a naked vagina and having titties shaking in his face.

Nbd really

Anonymous wrote:What are you scared of

Not trusting him again.

What are you scared of

Larry Flynt’s Hustlers club in Vegas if that matters. I found out from a text asking if it was a fraudulent charge. Husband said he was drunk and doesn’t remember and doesn’t think he did anything inappropriate.
We have discussed strip clubs in the past and he said “it wasn’t his thing”. I’m not 100% opposed but overall not very open to married men going, and feel it absolutely should have been discusssed first.
Husband also travels often for work (will be gone months next year) which is now a problem trust wise.
Is this a forgivable offense? Marriage breaker?