Anonymous
06/29/2024 20:34
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.
My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.
He treats me the same.
Love language is a myth
https://bethrowles.com/5-love-languages-debunked/
Anonymous
06/29/2024 20:32
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.
My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.
He treats me the same.
Being a good partner doesn’t mean removing your agency around sex, and this is a weird thing to include in a list of partnership qualities. A physical relationship is very important. That means being communicative, not subservient.
I do not remove my agency around sex. I CHOOSE to not turn down his advances, and that includes more than sex. For instance, I don’t shut down kisses if we are having a disagreement. The fact that we are both generous with affection and take pleasing each other seriously has been great.
Choosing to remove your own choice is exactly that. Whether you’re discussing sex or affection during a disagreement. That’s entirely separate from being generous with affection. Since this OP is clearly a young person seeking guidance, establishing the difference between a healthy physical relationship that includes generosity and carte blanche for physicality of any kind seems important, no?
Anonymous
06/29/2024 20:22
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.
My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.
He treats me the same.
Being a good partner doesn’t mean removing your agency around sex, and this is a weird thing to include in a list of partnership qualities. A physical relationship is very important. That means being communicative, not subservient.
I do not remove my agency around sex. I CHOOSE to not turn down his advances, and that includes more than sex. For instance, I don’t shut down kisses if we are having a disagreement. The fact that we are both generous with affection and take pleasing each other seriously has been great.
Anonymous
06/29/2024 20:18
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:Hello,
I haven’t been in a relationship in a while, I’m looking for advice on how to be in a healthy relationship and what are actions your gf/wife took that made you go long term.
I just entered a relationship after months of dating and it feels great. Just want to do my best.
Trust. If you commit to being exclusive, be that.
Don't act as if you are settling or waiting for something better to come along.
Risk putting your heart out there.
Anonymous
06/29/2024 20:14
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.
My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.
He treats me the same.
Being a good partner doesn’t mean removing your agency around sex, and this is a weird thing to include in a list of partnership qualities. A physical relationship is very important. That means being communicative, not subservient.
Anonymous
06/29/2024 19:50
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:Stop trying so hard to please. Be yourself.
This. Please yourself. Have a life that doesn't revolve around a man. Take good care of you, and meet your own needs.
Takes the pressure off your partner, who should be doing the same. Enabling someone's mediocrity by "taking care of them" isn't good partnership.
Anonymous
06/29/2024 19:35
Subject: Re:How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Communicate and tell the truth.
Anonymous
06/29/2024 19:34
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.
My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.
He treats me the same.
My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.
He treats me the same.
Anonymous
06/29/2024 19:11
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Hawk taugh
Anonymous
06/29/2024 19:08
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
GGG
Anonymous
06/29/2024 18:59
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:Be direct. Don't play games. Don't say things like "if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you." Pick your battles.
You should know that no one likes a direct woman...exhbit a is Hilary Clinton
You should ask is your boyfriend doing enough to please you? If not, move on
Anonymous
06/29/2024 18:58
Subject: Re:How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Anonymous
06/29/2024 18:23
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Be direct. Don't play games. Don't say things like "if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you." Pick your battles.
Anonymous
06/29/2024 18:11
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Stop trying so hard to please. Be yourself.
Anonymous
06/29/2024 17:40
Subject: How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?
Hello,
I haven’t been in a relationship in a while, I’m looking for advice on how to be in a healthy relationship and what are actions your gf/wife took that made you go long term.
I just entered a relationship after months of dating and it feels great. Just want to do my best.
I haven’t been in a relationship in a while, I’m looking for advice on how to be in a healthy relationship and what are actions your gf/wife took that made you go long term.
I just entered a relationship after months of dating and it feels great. Just want to do my best.