Anonymous wrote:Please elaborate. I will admit to being midline curious as to what this means.

There’s quite a bit of back story, but we found a house that is my dream house (not DH’s but he accepts we can’t do his dream house because of some serious health issues I have). We’re negotiating the price and repairs right now and our realtor says we’re very close to a deal. The last couple of days I just feel like it’s making me more selfish and materialistic. Friends say it’s just the process, but I don’t know. I think it’s bringing out something in me that I don’t like.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are worried you'll get your dream house and everyone will be so jealous of you that it ruins your friendships?

Please tell me you're joking.

No, I’m worried about what it might do to me. We’re very close in negotiations and I think it might be changing me for the worse personality-wise.

You have a couple of choices if you want to act on this concern. Either work at being a better person, whatever that means re:the house, or back out of the deal.

Anonymous wrote:You are worried you'll get your dream house and everyone will be so jealous of you that it ruins your friendships?

Please tell me you're joking.

No, I’m worried about what it might do to me. We’re very close in negotiations and I think it might be changing me for the worse personality-wise.

No.

People are born with certain personality traits and the seeds of conflict are usually already present before the dream house, or whatever event or item triggers the drama.

War of the Roses

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Anonymous wrote:A successful women friend built a gorgeous beach house in Delaware and some people got very jealous. They won’t visit her beautiful home because it makes them feel less than. These are mature women.

Is the successful women[sic] friend, actually you, PP?

Not me, but I would be OK if she left the house to me in her will when she dies.

This does happen!! In this case, one side of extended family wanted to also live in the house (the house is not that big) and almost destroyed the relationship. In addition, the neighbors were pretty nasty and judgmental. It pretty much sucked the joy out of living in the house.

Anonymous wrote:A successful women friend built a gorgeous beach house in Delaware and some people got very jealous. They won’t visit her beautiful home because it makes them feel less than. These are mature women.

Is the successful women[sic] friend, actually you, PP?

A successful women friend built a gorgeous beach house in Delaware and some people got very jealous. They won’t visit her beautiful home because it makes them feel less than. These are mature women.

Please elaborate. I will admit to being midline curious as to what this means.

You are worried you'll get your dream house and everyone will be so jealous of you that it ruins your friendships?

Please tell me you're joking.

Amityville Horror.

House of Leaves.

Never heard of this happening with anyone I know.

Am I the only one who worries about this?