Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A great, flexible attitude, not being on their phone constantly, especially at meals and group conversations. Good Manners. He should make dinner one night if they have a kitchen or buy them ice cream. And bring extra liquor if it’s that kind of party.

I picked up a family dinner tab once in a similar summer beach house situation and the dad got unhinged. It was so weird.

There is no way I would ever let my kid's friend pay for our entire family dinner!

Sorry, pp, I know your heart was in the right place, but this is a lot.

I love to send Omaha steaks. And I always love something personalized with the name of the beach house- napkins, dish towels. You can send something later with a thank you note.

Not alcohol

Anonymous wrote:Son is staying with a buddy’s family for a week. He will arrive tomorrow morning. Flowers for the mother…bottle of wine? The parents will be paying for everything for the week.

Flowers are boring. It is sotta late but perhaps he can send coffee/tea basket as a thank you. Or perps nice soaps for the futiure guests

Tell him to pay for his friend. Like if they play mini golf, he pays for him and his friend. Doesn’t have to be every time but a couple things are a nice gesture. Parents will certainly hear about it and appreciate it.

I’d tell him to pick up a consumable like taffy or fancy chocolate or fudge and gift it to them while he’s there. Nothing too extravagant but pair it with a heartfelt thank you for inviting me, I picked you up some candy. Most UMC families aren’t looking for kids to pay for anything on these trips, they’re doing their kids a favor by having someone to hang out with.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A great, flexible attitude, not being on their phone constantly, especially at meals and group conversations. Good Manners. He should make dinner one night if they have a kitchen or buy them ice cream. And bring extra liquor if it’s that kind of party.

I picked up a family dinner tab once in a similar summer beach house situation and the dad got unhinged. It was so weird.

There is no way I would ever let my kid's friend pay for our entire family dinner!

$75-100 bouquet of flowers from a local shop for the mother. Tell the shop who it’s for.

Anonymous wrote:A great, flexible attitude, not being on their phone constantly, especially at meals and group conversations. Good Manners. He should make dinner one night if they have a kitchen or buy them ice cream. And bring extra liquor if it’s that kind of party.

I picked up a family dinner tab once in a similar summer beach house situation and the dad got unhinged. It was so weird.

Anonymous wrote:If he’s old enough to buy a bottle of wine, he should figure this out himself.

But yeah, a bottle of wine is fine. Flowers, chocolates, stick to consumables and something easy to use up and discard during a week at the beach.

How does an average 21 year old know what kind of wine to buy affluent parents?

A great, flexible attitude, not being on their phone constantly, especially at meals and group conversations. Good Manners. He should make dinner one night if they have a kitchen or buy them ice cream. And bring extra liquor if it’s that kind of party.

No need to bring the mom a separate gift unless he's dating her. A bottle of wine for all is fine.

OP, do a search on Hostess gifts. While hotly debated (no I don't want scented candles or soap-- I LOVE scented candles and soap) there are always good ideas, especially consumables ideas.

If he’s old enough to buy a bottle of wine, he should figure this out himself.

But yeah, a bottle of wine is fine. Flowers, chocolates, stick to consumables and something easy to use up and discard during a week at the beach.

Son is staying with a buddy’s family for a week. He will arrive tomorrow morning. Flowers for the mother…bottle of wine? The parents will be paying for everything for the week.