Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s unpopular but I think this is why you’re supposed to be married by a certain age. Who wants to be thinking about MEN while you’re aging? A man you can grow old with, without drama and sleeping around and short term relationships is called your husband.

Only if you are happily married otherwise husbands are even more drama than being single

And messes and slobbish behaviors to deal with 24/7

Anonymous wrote:I think that BAD MATCHES diverge more as the people involved age. Couples, friendships, families, same gender, opposite genders, etc.

I read that untreated mental disorders really take over in the outer years with no routine or job or structure. If that’s all dumped on the neurotypical spouse then yeah, but “divergence.”

Too broad to generalize the but any differences and “divergences” in values, tempers, selfishness/ selflessness, habits were always there.

Until you live with someone and have to rely on them- to do real stuff like raise kids, maintain a house, run a family schedule- you know really don’t know and can’t say.

You certainly can’t say as an outsider commenting on someone else’s marriage dynamic.

No they don’t.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and starting to be less and less interested in men. Several in my life didn't treat me well and as I age I start looking for more security, not less whereas the men seem to be looking for more freedom than before. It's completely unappealing to me to be in a long term relationship with someone who seems to want the opposite. I'm just wondering if this is what naturally happens or is this just past trauma speaking? I can't even remotely relate to the men on here who post about short term relationship conquests. All I can think about is shared diseases and feeling cheap. It's just so unappealing as I think about myself aging and needing less drama in my life.

Just look for an older man who is kind, financially stable and presentable without being too handsome- yes, there are downsides but you will always be the younger, prettier “prize” and your sexual appetites will align/decline at the same time.

That doesn’t happen until after menopause sometimes. What about being in your 40s and wanting to do other men? This is terrible advice.

I think that BAD MATCHES diverge more as the people involved age. Couples, friendships, families, same gender, opposite genders, etc.

Anonymous wrote:If you believe that men who anonymously boast of their amorous conquests w young beauties who love sex with middle aged divorced dads on a mommy site, (ok ok, “parenting” website) I have a bridge to sell you.

Well whether it is true or not that is obviously what they want and I've seen it in real life. This obsession with sex with multiple people as well as just a lot of other kind of reckless behavior. Maybe once the midlife crisis point is over there is more convergence back together? I just know a lot of elderly women who now only spend time with other women.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and starting to be less and less interested in men. Several in my life didn't treat me well and as I age I start looking for more security, not less whereas the men seem to be looking for more freedom than before. It's completely unappealing to me to be in a long term relationship with someone who seems to want the opposite. I'm just wondering if this is what naturally happens or is this just past trauma speaking? I can't even remotely relate to the men on here who post about short term relationship conquests. All I can think about is shared diseases and feeling cheap. It's just so unappealing as I think about myself aging and needing less drama in my life.

Just look for an older man who is kind, financially stable and presentable without being too handsome- yes, there are downsides but you will always be the younger, prettier “prize” and your sexual appetites will align/decline at the same time.

Dp?

Double penetration?

If you believe that men who anonymously boast of their amorous conquests w young beauties who love sex with middle aged divorced dads on a mommy site, (ok ok, “parenting” website) I have a bridge to sell you.

I've noticed this in my platonic friendships. When women start having kids, they have less and less in common with their male friends. The experience of being a mom is very different from being a dad. The aging process also hits the genders differently. Even end of life matters affects men and women differently, since women are expected to outlive their male partners.

Anonymous wrote:It’s unpopular but I think this is why you’re supposed to be married by a certain age. Who wants to be thinking about MEN while you’re aging? A man you can grow old with, without drama and sleeping around and short term relationships is called your husband.

I'm sure the marrying time has much more to do with children but I get your point that it's a lot of energy to date when older. But that's kind of my point that it is diffiult for women after a certain age but doesn't seem to be for men. The men's stories about sleeping around sound like a horror story to me and sound similar to talking about taking up drag racing in their 60s. The effort, the danger. Just not my thing. But for men this is their version of a mid life crisis and being happy. Going out and having sex wherever they want. Which led me to think if men and women's interests in each other wane as people age because they want such different things out of the relationship and have much larger swings of energies towards relationship activities.

Anonymous wrote:It’s unpopular but I think this is why you’re supposed to be married by a certain age. Who wants to be thinking about MEN while you’re aging? A man you can grow old with, without drama and sleeping around and short term relationships is called your husband.

Only if you are happily married otherwise husbands are even more drama than being single

It’s unpopular but I think this is why you’re supposed to be married by a certain age. Who wants to be thinking about MEN while you’re aging? A man you can grow old with, without drama and sleeping around and short term relationships is called your husband.

I'm a woman and starting to be less and less interested in men. Several in my life didn't treat me well and as I age I start looking for more security, not less whereas the men seem to be looking for more freedom than before. It's completely unappealing to me to be in a long term relationship with someone who seems to want the opposite. I'm just wondering if this is what naturally happens or is this just past trauma speaking? I can't even remotely relate to the men on here who post about short term relationship conquests. All I can think about is shared diseases and feeling cheap. It's just so unappealing as I think about myself aging and needing less drama in my life.