It’s not the orgasm. It’s the bonding.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has hang ups around sex and cannot make the first move. It is so demoralizing to always be the one to initiate that it’s not even worth it anymore. We’ve done therapy but nothing changes. He can go without.

I feel so lonely and unsatisfied. I want to be with someone romantically and physically. I want that person to want me. I am still decent looking. I want a boyfriend.

Divorce, role play or vibrator.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has hang ups around sex and cannot make the first move. It is so demoralizing to always be the one to initiate that it’s not even worth it anymore. We’ve done therapy but nothing changes. He can go without.

I feel so lonely and unsatisfied. I want to be with someone romantically and physically. I want that person to want me. I am still decent looking. I want a boyfriend.

Why can't you just divorce if it's a serious enough matter for you?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a DH.

Completely asexual marriage.

If I make sexual innuendos my wife scoffs at them. At a point in life where divorce would be problematic.

I am not in the DMV area but I completely understand - I want a GF. I want to feel sexual energy. I want to be playful. I want a little lust.

I’m guessing your innuendos are juvenile and completely unsexy. Have you tried actually seducing her? Like slowly over the course of a day or two? Do you ruin the mood by saying stupid crap? If you have been sexless for a long time you’ll need to have adult conversation about it before you actually have sex. And you’ll have to actually bring confident male energy into the relationship.

DP here the poor guy has, like many men, reached the point where he can do no right. Any advances he makes to her, no matter how smooth or seductive, just give her the ick. Anything he says (even if it's totally unrelated to sex) is regarded as stupid crap. Any confident male energy will be regarded as him being an annoying sex pest.

There's no coming back from this. In short, it's over.

Anonymous wrote:I am a DH.

Completely asexual marriage.

If I make sexual innuendos my wife scoffs at them. At a point in life where divorce would be problematic.

I am not in the DMV area but I completely understand - I want a GF. I want to feel sexual energy. I want to be playful. I want a little lust.

I’m guessing your innuendos are juvenile and completely unsexy. Have you tried actually seducing her? Like slowly over the course of a day or two? Do you ruin the mood by saying stupid crap? If you have been sexless for a long time you’ll need to have adult conversation about it before you actually have sex. And you’ll have to actually bring confident male energy into the relationship.

AP or ask to open the marriage. Either way it’s on you if you don’t make the change.

Same boat. It is so devastating. I’d leave I a nano second but my kids at 8 and 10 and I don’t want to mess up their lives or miss out on time with them. Relationship is fine, even good, except the intimacy part.

Anyone reading this and not yet in deep (ie kids, mortgage), get out now!! Don’t wait. It does not get better. Even with therapy.

Anonymous wrote:I am a DH.

Completely asexual marriage.

If I make sexual innuendos my wife scoffs at them. At a point in life where divorce would be problematic.

I am not in the DMV area but I completely understand - I want a GF. I want to feel sexual energy. I want to be playful. I want a little lust.

Sigh, I could have written this about DH.

-A DW

Anonymous wrote:My husband has hang ups around sex and cannot make the first move. It is so demoralizing to always be the one to initiate that it’s not even worth it anymore. We’ve done therapy but nothing changes. He can go without.

I feel so lonely and unsatisfied. I want to be with someone romantically and physically. I want that person to want me. I am still decent looking. I want a boyfriend.

Then get a divorce.

Just file for divorce and you will have access to so many young boyfriends. The new style on DCUM is to go young. Lots of horny young studs to satisfy you.

File for divorce next week.

I am a DH.

Completely asexual marriage.

If I make sexual innuendos my wife scoffs at them. At a point in life where divorce would be problematic.

I am not in the DMV area but I completely understand - I want a GF. I want to feel sexual energy. I want to be playful. I want a little lust.

Are you going to tell your DH?

Go for it.

A / S / L???????

My husband has hang ups around sex and cannot make the first move. It is so demoralizing to always be the one to initiate that it’s not even worth it anymore. We’ve done therapy but nothing changes. He can go without.

I feel so lonely and unsatisfied. I want to be with someone romantically and physically. I want that person to want me. I am still decent looking. I want a boyfriend.