I’d start with a really good sports bra instead

Anonymous wrote:11 is really young to develop. It's possible that she's getting a lot of unwanted attention. I would talk to her about this first. I like the idea of a sports bra too, but if she wants to wear it I would certainly not try to forbid it. You want to keep communication open.

Sorry for misgendering, I should have said they instead.

11 is really young to develop. It's possible that she's getting a lot of unwanted attention. I would talk to her about this first. I like the idea of a sports bra too, but if she wants to wear it I would certainly not try to forbid it. You want to keep communication open.

If she’s not asking don’t offer. Follow their lead. Why would you want to introduce that? I agree with a sports bra which might just be a nice comfortable option for them anyway.

My daughter wore a binder intermittently for a few years. She’s 18 now and just wears a sports bra. We didn’t make it a big deal. I never thought about forbidding it.

But as someone who has had a bigger chest since a teen, I understand the urge to clamp them down a bit. I’m in no way trans, but a lot of times a big chest can be annoying, embarrassing, unflattering and even a little painful. Let her try out some options.

I have no personal or even second hand experience, but I've heard of trans tape as an alternative to binding. It's skin-safe tape applied in a specific way to minimize breasts, and I don't think it has the same effect on lungs/breathing because it doesn't go all the way around. I've also seen various resources online addressing safe binding.

My daughter was also a C cup from an early age. She never wanted to be a boy but found sports bras more comfortable. I wouldn’t suggest binders if your daughter isn’t asking for them. Her favorite is the Nike swoosh and she has them in a few colors, wears daily to school even as a teen.

The HRC has a lot of info for parents on binders as well as a shop that sells safe binders. Might be worth a look

Anonymous wrote:OP, where are you? Your best best would be to get a good recommendation on a pediatrician with experience in this area. Also maybe PFLAG.

Okay. OP here. I have a friend who is a pediatrician who does this work. I’ll ask her.

They make you look like a 60 yo woman that breasts fed 10 babies.

OP if you’re in Fairfax County, I’d check with the Inova Pride Clinic.

OP, where are you? Your best best would be to get a good recommendation on a pediatrician with experience in this area. Also maybe PFLAG.

How about an elongated sports bra that smashes things flat. Mildly in the right direction but not introducing the idea that breasts are ugly and to be gotten rid of.

They are supposed to be pretty bad for your lungs/heart.

They hate the look of their size C boobs. They’re only 11 but pretty clear they want to be a boy or at least, not so visibly a girl. I don’t think they know binders exist.

What are the health risks of wearing them? I understand good binders are healthier than wrapping yourself in ace bandages. We are not there yet. I want to be supportive without furthering their dysmorphia.