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Anonymous wrote:depends...how long have you been together and how old are you? I would test drive the car before buying it. I personally wouldn't marry someone unless I lived with them first, as you will learn quickly if you are truly compatible in it for the long haul.

OP here. We have been together for almost 1.5 years. I’m 29 and he is 31. I’m excited to take these next steps in our relationship, but I’m like 10% hesitant because I’ve heard the stories of women moving in and it never resulting in marriage. I want a marriage and kids by the time I’m 35.

Then I would just have a plan to move out if you don’t get it by the appropriate time.

Tbh based on generational patterns very few millennial men will propose and then move in with a woman

Anonymous wrote:depends...how long have you been together and how old are you? I would test drive the car before buying it. I personally wouldn't marry someone unless I lived with them first, as you will learn quickly if you are truly compatible in it for the long haul.

OP here. We have been together for almost 1.5 years. I’m 29 and he is 31. I’m excited to take these next steps in our relationship, but I’m like 10% hesitant because I’ve heard the stories of women moving in and it never resulting in marriage. I want a marriage and kids by the time I’m 35.

You may find after you live together, you don’t want the ring. I think it’s helpful to live together before you get married.

I was 28 when moved in with DH, we had been together for a year and change. We got engaged a year later and have been married 12 years. Not sure why so many people on this thread are against it.

Sauron did and had a very successful run.

depends...how long have you been together and how old are you? I would test drive the car before buying it. I personally wouldn't marry someone unless I lived with them first, as you will learn quickly if you are truly compatible in it for the long haul.

I did and we married 4 years later. It was great--discovered that we were truly compatible and saved a bunch of money (lived in NYC at the time0.

This all depends on your particular circumstances. The idea that no one should move in without a ring seems to be particularly strong on DCUM (but, curiously, not in real life among the people I know).

30 and I only know one couple who moved in together after they got engaged and that’s because they were long distance when they got engaged.

I think it’s fine to move in before a ring but you need to have a set expectation (“we need to be engaged three months after I move in”) and be prepared to make good on moving out if he doesn’t meet that expectation

It depends. If you are the holdout, then I would do it. If you want to get married, and he is the holdout, then don’t.

No!

No.

NO!

No

I’m in this predicament, and I’m wondering if it’s wise for me live in without a ring?