Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid joined because his friend joined. The friend’s mom is making her kid do it. My DC thought it would be fun to join but doesn’t like it at all. Neither does his friend. Honestly I am dreading the long Wednesday meets.
But what bugs me is, pretty much every kid is doing a swim team. Why does my kid hate it so much?
He's probably being left out of the social dynamics. A lot of the kids would have been on summer swim team together for years. It takes a while to be included.
He probably finds it really tiring if he hasn't been swimming all winter, so it's hard work.
Lots of 11-12 to swimmers have been doing serious winter clubs at least 3x a week for several years and are very fast. It probably feels impossible to catch up.
If he's not fast, he probably isn't getting much coach attention and probably isn't learning that much, especially if practices are crowded.
He hasn't been to a meet yet, which is what most kids find fun, especially once they have made good friends.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid joined because his friend joined. The friend’s mom is making her kid do it. My DC thought it would be fun to join but doesn’t like it at all. Neither does his friend. Honestly I am dreading the long Wednesday meets.
But what bugs me is, pretty much every kid is doing a swim team. Why does my kid hate it so much?
Anonymous wrote:How old? How is he doing swim wise? Is he improving? Maybe he doesn’t like it bc it is tiring, does not have a lot of friends doing it, is not very good at it, sees other kids are better, etc.
I’d evaluate all of those possibilities and see if there is a real reason to quit. Are there other factors making it unlikeable?
If you want him to learn to swim, then he learns to swim.
Anonymous wrote:How old? How is he doing swim wise? Is he improving? Maybe he doesn’t like it bc it is tiring, does not have a lot of friends doing it, is not very good at it, sees other kids are better, etc.
I’d evaluate all of those possibilities and see if there is a real reason to quit. Are there other factors making it unlikeable?
If you want him to learn to swim, then he learns to swim.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid joined because his friend joined. The friend’s mom is making her kid do it. My DC thought it would be fun to join but doesn’t like it at all. Neither does his friend. Honestly I am dreading the long Wednesday meets.
But what bugs me is, pretty much every kid is doing a swim team. Why does my kid hate it so much?
Anonymous wrote:It's okay if your kid doesn't like swim team. Let them quit.