Anonymous
06/07/2024 05:33
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
Anonymous wrote:I would bring it up casually and say you're sorry the ex was aggressive and cruel (again, I'm sure it's not the first time). That's all. Just a quick word of support.
OP here. This is what I ended up doing yesterday. A quick text exchange during our respective lunch breaks at work. It was a good brief discussion, I'm glad ds knows I love him always. He's a wonderful young man, and his partner (of 3 years) is a nice guy whom I really like. It's the ex's loss, for sure.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 18:42
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
He didn’t confide in you. It sounds like he confided in his sibling, who told you. I would just let it be and see if he brings it up to you on his own.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 18:39
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
Anonymous wrote: Glad this is anon and no one here knows us.
My mid-20's ds had to block his dad, my exdh-because ex apparently texted him negatively in regards to ds being gay (ds is gay). Apparently this happened recently and I only know because another sibling told me.
Ex and I are still coparenting a dc but I don't speak to him at all about the adult dc. I do not plan to discuss it with him, as his relationships with the kids are his to maintain/destroy.
I'm not sure if I should bring it up to ds. Ds knows I love and support him (I see him and his partner whenever I can with all our job schedules), but I don't know if he knows that I had no idea this happened. I would like him to know that (that I had no idea ex was going to do that). But he hasn't brought it up to me.
I would talk with my son about the text I saw and how it is impacting him with love and compassion. I would not tell him to block his dad, although I may ask if he wanted to brain storm ways to respond or not respond to his dad. (I a therapist and mom--don't know if this makes a difference)
Anonymous
06/06/2024 18:36
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
I would bring it up casually and say you're sorry the ex was aggressive and cruel (again, I'm sure it's not the first time). That's all. Just a quick word of support.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 18:35
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
MYOB
Anonymous
06/06/2024 18:34
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
Oh I kind of disagree here, I don’t think staying out of it is supportive enough. I think you have to ask him what happened and how you can help. You can figure out together what’s in bounds since you still have to co parent but I don’t think just “staying out of it” is okay. You do that on the DH’s side, not the DS’s.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 18:23
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
Say nothing until/unless he brings it up. Then your response would be along the lines of "I am so sorry - he is totally wrong and it's really his loss here."
Anonymous
06/06/2024 17:58
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
Stay out of it.
Anonymous
06/05/2024 08:52
Subject: Ds had to block Dad
Glad this is anon and no one here knows us.
My mid-20's ds had to block his dad, my exdh-because ex apparently texted him negatively in regards to ds being gay (ds is gay). Apparently this happened recently and I only know because another sibling told me.
Ex and I are still coparenting a dc but I don't speak to him at all about the adult dc. I do not plan to discuss it with him, as his relationships with the kids are his to maintain/destroy.
I'm not sure if I should bring it up to ds. Ds knows I love and support him (I see him and his partner whenever I can with all our job schedules), but I don't know if he knows that I had no idea this happened. I would like him to know that (that I had no idea ex was going to do that). But he hasn't brought it up to me.
My mid-20's ds had to block his dad, my exdh-because ex apparently texted him negatively in regards to ds being gay (ds is gay). Apparently this happened recently and I only know because another sibling told me.
Ex and I are still coparenting a dc but I don't speak to him at all about the adult dc. I do not plan to discuss it with him, as his relationships with the kids are his to maintain/destroy.
I'm not sure if I should bring it up to ds. Ds knows I love and support him (I see him and his partner whenever I can with all our job schedules), but I don't know if he knows that I had no idea this happened. I would like him to know that (that I had no idea ex was going to do that). But he hasn't brought it up to me.