Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 08:12     Subject: Ideal first date
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman


What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.


I rarely drink and would be fine dating someone who didn't drink at all. I know it wouldn't work for some people, but I'd never date someone who smoked no matter how otherwise compatible they were with me, so we all have our rules. Someone who wouldn't date you because you don't drink just isn't a good match for you, and that's ok.


Ridiculous rules.

Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 08:10     Subject: Ideal first date
Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman


This is a good point. I posted about going on a hike or doing something that could be uncomfortable but you're right that for a first date an exit ramp is important. Also it's probably a good idea to be in a crowded restaurant with a stranger than to be alone in the woods with them.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 08:09     Subject: Ideal first date
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman


What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.


I rarely drink and would be fine dating someone who didn't drink at all. I know it wouldn't work for some people, but I'd never date someone who smoked no matter how otherwise compatible they were with me, so we all have our rules. Someone who wouldn't date you because you don't drink just isn't a good match for you, and that's ok.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 08:09     Subject: Ideal first date
Midweek happy hour.

Second date (if there is one) should be dinner. Agree with a PP that “active” dates are good for date 3+.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 08:07     Subject: Ideal first date
Anonymous wrote:Man or woman. What would be your ideal first date? I am a woman, and I would love to go to the batting cage. I would even wear a sundress to knock the ball out of the park.


My husband and I went to the batting cages for an early date and we had a blast.

Another first date that I loved was going on a hike with our dogs. You learn A LOT about a person when things get uncomfortable, and we had heat, humidity, bugs, and the dogs to deal with. I feel like I saw who he was at the core that day and 15+ years later I wasn't wrong.

Anyone can behave themselves in a restaurant for a few hours - I'd rather see people in fun but maybe slightly challenging situations. So batting cages, hiking, playing games with friends, dealing with animals, etc. You can have a good time and also learn a lot about a person.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 07:55     Subject: Ideal first date
Drink or coffee at a convenient place and time.

Imo the second date is really the first “date.”
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 07:35     Subject: Ideal first date
Agree with short for drink/coffee if you haven’t already met in person and don’t know them.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 07:25     Subject: Ideal first date
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman


What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.


Then date me - I don't drink alcohol either. [/quote

There should be a dating section here where we can exchange info lol. I would love to date you 😊]
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 06:59     Subject: Ideal first date
Just get a mocktail. All bars do them these days.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 01:16     Subject: Ideal first date
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman


What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.


Then date me - I don't drink alcohol either.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 01:14     Subject: Re:Ideal first date
Possibly meet for a cup of coffee or even lunch. ❤️
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 00:43     Subject: Ideal first date
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman


What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.

Woman here whose ideal first date is also a bar. I went on a few dates with a guy who didn't drink. I didn't think it was weird. He wasn't weird about it so it wasn't weird. At one point I made a joke about being on my third glass of wine and he was very charming and said "Oh, well you're drinking for both of us."
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 00:36     Subject: Ideal first date
Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman


What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 22:08     Subject: Ideal first date
Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 21:50     Subject: Ideal first date
Man or woman. What would be your ideal first date? I am a woman, and I would love to go to the batting cage. I would even wear a sundress to knock the ball out of the park.