Anonymous
05/31/2024 17:03
Subject: Paying for gas
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:y'all are petty.
+1
Is the thought that you were teaching them something by making them pay $10 for a few extra gallons of gas per month?
Fur us, we already lost, when we over indulged by giving him a car to drive to school. Insurance fir a teen is $150 a month. We pay for $$$ for their sneakers or backpack. We are past “need”. We will Draw the line somewhere else.
My kid drives to school and practices which is the biggest blessing and time saver for me. They also meet friends at the mall or for dinner, and even go out if their way to be the responsible ride for a friend. They put in gas and I reimburse.
I do show them the price of the annual car maintenance or the new tires. This teaches them that driving the car is not free and allows them to be grateful that I am able to pay and allow them to have this privilege. This is the same thing I do when they want the more expensive backpack or sneakers. I think teaching gratitude for caring parents who are willing to spend on them is the best lesson. I’d hate to teach them that I’m okay giving the Uber driver an extra $5 “just because” but I can’t to my own kid.
You are right about one thing. You’ve already lost.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 17:01
Subject: Paying for gas
Anonymous wrote:y'all are petty.
+1
Is the thought that you were teaching them something by making them pay $10 for a few extra gallons of gas per month?
Fur us, we already lost, when we over indulged by giving him a car to drive to school. Insurance fir a teen is $150 a month. We pay for $$$ for their sneakers or backpack. We are past “need”. We will Draw the line somewhere else.
My kid drives to school and practices which is the biggest blessing and time saver for me. They also meet friends at the mall or for dinner, and even go out if their way to be the responsible ride for a friend. They put in gas and I reimburse.
I do show them the price of the annual car maintenance or the new tires. This teaches them that driving the car is not free and allows them to be grateful that I am able to pay and allow them to have this privilege. This is the same thing I do when they want the more expensive backpack or sneakers. I think teaching gratitude for caring parents who are willing to spend on them is the best lesson. I’d hate to teach them that I’m okay giving the Uber driver an extra $5 “just because” but I can’t to my own kid.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 16:47
Subject: Paying for gas
Teen has job and pays for gas.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 16:45
Subject: Paying for gas
Anonymous wrote:y'all are petty.
Actually all the research on raising functional adults says they need skin in the game.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 16:42
Subject: Re:Paying for gas
We bought our grandson a truck and pay his vehicle insurance. I send him a $300 Walmart card monthly for gas and $300 for other stuff he may need. All we told him was learn to budget. He's just finishing his junior year in college. He's a good kid.
The way I look at it is it's not forever and as long as he keeps his grades up and does his life right we will always help him.
He never asks. We just do it.
The way I look at it is it's not forever and as long as he keeps his grades up and does his life right we will always help him.
He never asks. We just do it.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:47
Subject: Paying for gas
We pay for it regardless of where they are going. Drivers are 19 and 21 (in college).
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:46
Subject: Paying for gas
y'all are petty.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:45
Subject: Re:Paying for gas
Anonymous wrote:My teen doesn't have his own car, he borrows our as available. We don't ask him to pay for any gas, he's mostly just around town with friends etc and the distances are minimal. I do LOVE asking him to fill my car up when he's out there (and I reimburse) - having someone pump my gas is like an 80s- style luxury
My husband pumps 95% of my gas and I agree it’s very nice!
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:44
Subject: Paying for gas
We estimate the cost of gas for school and her sport practice and transfer it to her as part of her allowance. Any overage is on her and she’s fine with that.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:25
Subject: Paying for gas
We pay. My kid has a demanding sport that is year round, on top of a rigorous class load. Lastly, the "work" being done this summer is unpaid (think: an unpaid internship). Kid is doing enough and we feel comfortable paying for gas at this time.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:14
Subject: Re:Paying for gas
My teen doesn't have his own car, he borrows our as available. We don't ask him to pay for any gas, he's mostly just around town with friends etc and the distances are minimal. I do LOVE asking him to fill my car up when he's out there (and I reimburse) - having someone pump my gas is like an 80s- style luxury
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:12
Subject: Paying for gas
If you are paying for gas you are in essence paying them to drive the car, why would you do that? What’s their contribution. It could be in, chores, helping with younger siblings or grandparents, not necessarily cash.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:03
Subject: Paying for gas
Anonymous wrote:It's time for your teen to get a PT job to pay for his gas. I gave my DD a few months notice that by X date I was no longer paying for her gas. She got a PT job and pays it now. I already paid for her car and her dad and I split her car insurance. It teaches responsibility too.
He worked at a restaurant this year until sport season and had to quit. He is planning on a job this summer again.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 15:01
Subject: Paying for gas
It's time for your teen to get a PT job to pay for his gas. I gave my DD a few months notice that by X date I was no longer paying for her gas. She got a PT job and pays it now. I already paid for her car and her dad and I split her car insurance. It teaches responsibility too.
Anonymous
05/31/2024 14:18
Subject: Paying for gas
Do you or does your teen? I have paid so far but that is mostly because ds drives to school. Now he has a girlfriend who lives 20 mins away and drives to her, drives places with friends constantly...I am considering only paying for the school portion.