Anonymous
05/27/2024 17:03
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
Anonymous wrote:If he’s not getting playing time why are you paying for this?
I truly don’t understand why people pay to have their kids sit on the bench.
To get better in practice.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 16:53
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
No idea what the comment was meant to mean. Assume OP mistyped. Op come back and clarify. Posting and then ghosting is poor form.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 16:53
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you mean to write 'choking'?
It is "joking." I am certain because another player told me the same thing.
OP, how is that abusive?
Anonymous
05/27/2024 16:51
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
Anonymous wrote:Did you mean to write 'choking'?
It is "joking." I am certain because another player told me the same thing.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 16:41
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
Some of my kids played high level sports.
Never ever would I leave them with a coach that keeps them on the bench, treats them badly or is a screamer. I do not understand parents that allow this. For one your kid is learning nothing, and two it kills their confidence.
Mom of more than one Division 1 player.
Never ever would I leave them with a coach that keeps them on the bench, treats them badly or is a screamer. I do not understand parents that allow this. For one your kid is learning nothing, and two it kills their confidence.
Mom of more than one Division 1 player.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 16:38
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
Anonymous wrote:He needs a new coach. Not because of this (confusing) comment but because he has been coaching him since he was 6. This man has nothing left to teach your son. He would be better off with a fresh perspective and new voice as a coach.
+1
Anonymous
05/27/2024 16:34
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
He needs a new coach. Not because of this (confusing) comment but because he has been coaching him since he was 6. This man has nothing left to teach your son. He would be better off with a fresh perspective and new voice as a coach.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 16:17
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
Anonymous wrote:Did you mean to write 'choking'?
I'm confused as well... start poaching? Start hustling? Start Jerking? I have no idea what the OP is trying to say. I assume spell check jumped in to fix the word to Joking....
Anonymous
05/27/2024 15:04
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
If he’s not getting playing time why are you paying for this?
I truly don’t understand why people pay to have their kids sit on the bench.
I truly don’t understand why people pay to have their kids sit on the bench.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 15:01
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
Did you mean to write 'choking'?
Anonymous
05/27/2024 12:18
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
Anonymous wrote:DS has been with this soccer coach since 6 years old. As he grew older, this coach formed his opinion on his playing. He thinks DS is not aggressive enough to play soccer even though he recognizes that DS is good at techniques. DS is in HS now and has been improving but his coach still sees him based on his first impression. DS is on the bench most of the time during the games. We endure this coach because DS doesn't want to change to another team or club. Most of his soccer friends are on this team. During the Potomac Soccer Tournament this weekend, the coach told DS "Go on the field and start joking" when DS was about to substitute for his teammate who left the field due to injury. His coach commented in front of DS's teammates who sat on the bench. It was humiliating and abusive from my point of view. However, DS is still inclined to stay with this coach. He said he is used to this coach's language. Am I oversensitive to this type of language? Am I overreacting to wanting to change DS to another club?
The comment might not be awful, but I think the way your DS is being handled by the coach and the way your son is reacting to the situation is concerning.
It sounds to me like your son is more concerned with fitting in and following the pack, to the point of his own detriment (that was the case with my DS). He’s talented, but has been an afterthought for this coach for way too long, if he has been his coach from u6-HS. That’s plenty of time for a coach to develop and teach him to address his weaknesses, such as being more aggressive etc (in my experience, coaches who emphasize/focus on aggressiveness are typically poor coaches, but that’s another discussion).
Personally, I’d pull him out of that situation. It’s hard to do and change will be hard for him, but he’ll be a stronger man in the long run if he goes elsewhere, establishes himself and realizes that he’s not a doormat.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 12:14
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
“Go on the field and start joking.” What does this mean?
Anonymous
05/27/2024 11:50
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
That's not what I'd consider abusive OP.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 11:47
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
I wouldn’t read much into that comment. That’s pretty mild compared to what my HS aged kid has heard over the years from u9-u16. The bigger issue is he isn’t playing much. How many minutes does he get in a game? What level team is he on? Has he asked the coach how he can improve and then taken those steps? At the end of the day, I think kids need to play where they get minutes. Sometimes that means accepting that you need to move down a level or find a coach who appreciates your style of play. It’s unusual to stay on the same team for an entire youth soccer career in my experience. I understand he may not want to move (my son has sometimes been hesitant) but I don’t see any point in staying if your son is getting only a few minutes a game.
Anonymous
05/27/2024 11:32
Subject: Verbally abusive soccer coach
DS has been with this soccer coach since 6 years old. As he grew older, this coach formed his opinion on his playing. He thinks DS is not aggressive enough to play soccer even though he recognizes that DS is good at techniques. DS is in HS now and has been improving but his coach still sees him based on his first impression. DS is on the bench most of the time during the games. We endure this coach because DS doesn't want to change to another team or club. Most of his soccer friends are on this team. During the Potomac Soccer Tournament this weekend, the coach told DS "Go on the field and start joking" when DS was about to substitute for his teammate who left the field due to injury. His coach commented in front of DS's teammates who sat on the bench. It was humiliating and abusive from my point of view. However, DS is still inclined to stay with this coach. He said he is used to this coach's language. Am I oversensitive to this type of language? Am I overreacting to wanting to change DS to another club?