Anonymous
Post 05/27/2024 11:22     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Text message
No DB at home
Yes, lied about it

Did the AP know you were having sex with your wife too?


APs do not really care, I always assume a married person is having sex with their spouse also. It’s silly to think a cheater is not lying or being “faithful” to you.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2024 10:49     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Anonymous wrote:Text message
No DB at home
Yes, lied about it

Did the AP know you were having sex with your wife too?
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2024 09:39     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Text message
No DB at home
Yes, lied about it
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2024 01:14     Subject: Re:Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Anonymous wrote:Sex a few times a week with wife. Having cake and eating it too. Being an idiot- typical midlife age stuff.

One mistake with phone when drunk. She caught it before I did. Confessed. Ironically, it was over by then. I had ended it.


If you had ended it already, what was the "mistake with phone"? Did she stay with you?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 20:00     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Anonymous wrote:Wife opened a medical record that my doctor sent home. (She pays the bills and opened it thinking it was a bill.). She found out other things to by watching the (joint) cell phone bill and installing a keylogger on her laptop, which I sometimes used.

I told her the girl meant nothing and asked not to break up and agreed to go to therapy with her. But, I lied in therapy for about a year. She found out about the lying and kicked me out.

Definitely not a dead bedroom situation - we had sex multiple times a week. I had two kids with her while I was sleeping with various other women over 3-4 years.



Wow, did you divorce? Get treated for sex addiction?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 18:42     Subject: Re:Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Sex a few times a week with wife. Having cake and eating it too. Being an idiot- typical midlife age stuff.

One mistake with phone when drunk. She caught it before I did. Confessed. Ironically, it was over by then. I had ended it.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 17:58     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am not a man and no cheating in my marriage (now divorced) but dead bedrooms are real. We had separate bedrooms from when I was 35-42 when we divorced. We had sex once in that entire timeframe.

He would have been telling the truth if there was cheating. I know 3 other marriages like mine was.

I think this is the most common cause of cheating. Most people are not narcissistic serial cheaters.


Same. Separate bedrooms, zero sex. Roommates with additional obligations.


I was this, never cheated, eventually got divorce. Healthy, happy in my 50s. Selfish pricks do it, try to draw others into it.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 17:42     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Anonymous wrote:Wife opened a medical record that my doctor sent home. (She pays the bills and opened it thinking it was a bill.). She found out other things to by watching the (joint) cell phone bill and installing a keylogger on her laptop, which I sometimes used.

I told her the girl meant nothing and asked not to break up and agreed to go to therapy with her. But, I lied in therapy for about a year. She found out about the lying and kicked me out.

Definitely not a dead bedroom situation - we had sex multiple times a week. I had two kids with her while I was sleeping with various other women over 3-4 years.


Obviously posted by the ex-DW. Sorry that this happened to you.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 17:25     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Wife opened a medical record that my doctor sent home. (She pays the bills and opened it thinking it was a bill.). She found out other things to by watching the (joint) cell phone bill and installing a keylogger on her laptop, which I sometimes used.

I told her the girl meant nothing and asked not to break up and agreed to go to therapy with her. But, I lied in therapy for about a year. She found out about the lying and kicked me out.

Definitely not a dead bedroom situation - we had sex multiple times a week. I had two kids with her while I was sleeping with various other women over 3-4 years.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 10:03     Subject: Re:Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
I hadn't realized my iPad synced my Facebook messages, so my wife found a bunch pop up when she opened my iPad for a legit reason.

We were having unenthusiastic sex 3-6x a year and fought about the lack of sex. Sleeping in separate bedrooms.

We went to counseling and we are doing great now.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 07:56     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Anonymous wrote:I am not a man and no cheating in my marriage (now divorced) but dead bedrooms are real. We had separate bedrooms from when I was 35-42 when we divorced. We had sex once in that entire timeframe.

He would have been telling the truth if there was cheating. I know 3 other marriages like mine was.

I think this is the most common cause of cheating. Most people are not narcissistic serial cheaters.


Same. Separate bedrooms, zero sex. Roommates with additional obligations.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 07:47     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Anonymous wrote:I am not a man and no cheating in my marriage (now divorced) but dead bedrooms are real. We had separate bedrooms from when I was 35-42 when we divorced. We had sex once in that entire timeframe.

He would have been telling the truth if there was cheating. I know 3 other marriages like mine was.

I think this is the most common cause of cheating. Most people are not narcissistic serial cheaters.


So wrong
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 07:46     Subject: Re:Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
Text message

Had sex 2-3x a week at home
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 01:24     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
I am not a man and no cheating in my marriage (now divorced) but dead bedrooms are real. We had separate bedrooms from when I was 35-42 when we divorced. We had sex once in that entire timeframe.

He would have been telling the truth if there was cheating. I know 3 other marriages like mine was.

I think this is the most common cause of cheating. Most people are not narcissistic serial cheaters.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2024 00:37     Subject: Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?
How did you get caught? and were you really not sleeping with the wife and it was a 'dead bedroom' situation? or did you lie about it? Wondering how frequently men actually lie about it.