I met my DH when I was 33. Within 6 months we were talking about marriage, after 1.5 years we moved in together and got engaged 6 month later and married 4 months after that. All told, 2.5 years from meeting to marriage.

I don’t understand how women just wait to get engaged. Be an active participant in your life.

It's 2024. You can propose, no need to wait for the man. And wth is a "loving wait"? You're not doing him or yourself a favor by waiting. Nothing loving about it. What would be loving is having an open conversation about your life goals, so neither of you will be sorely disappointed after having waited lovingly.

"Wait"????

You ask yourself, silly. That's what women do.

Dear goodness. I was going to make comments about the 19th century, but no. In real life, across all periods, women have known how to express their wishes regarding marriage.

You have a voice. Use it.

Anonymous wrote:Just put it out there and see where you stand. My now husband very quickly proposed once I dropped a hint that I needed to move on with my life and start dating marriage-minded men (like, within days).

See that's the problem I am not saying that will be your case down the line, but these kind of pressure that men feel are just the beginning. 10 years into the marriage it will be another issue ngain another deadline will be given again. It will be another aspect of the relationship that he is failing to fulfill to the woman's satisfaction.

I think waiting for a proposal sounds insane in this modern day and age. Have an open honest discussion about whether or not you you each want to get married and have kids. If both people want this, then look at the timeline for a wedding. Decide when you want to let people know you will be getting married.

Needing a cute video for instagram and pictures of a ring to show off, and a shocked pose of he proposed! is what is sold in rom coms and romance novels but really isn't real life.

A man who makes the decision to date a never married no kids woman in her 30s MUST know that the woman is now onto goal #2 ie marriage and kids. Goal # 1 career has probably been fulfilled.

A man who makes the decision to date a never married no kids woman in her 30s MUST know that the woman is now onto goal #2 ie marriage and kids. Goal # 1 career has probably been fulfilled.

Anonymous wrote:Take charge of your own life.

This. Why not put it out there or propose to him?

Do you want a marriage, or do you want a ring, a party, and to be a main character?

Just put it out there and see where you stand. My now husband very quickly proposed once I dropped a hint that I needed to move on with my life and start dating marriage-minded men (like, within days).

I would expect to be discussing what the future looked like with a specific timeline by six months. And if I wanted kids, that would be included in the timeline discussion. And then, I would expect to see that timeline lived up to.

You shouldn’t be “waiting”. I here should be some kind of agreed upon timeline as you’re both adults who presumedly want the same thing. If that’s not the case, and marriage is what YOU want, move along. It’s painful and sad, but the man who wants you, will want you.

Can you discuss with them?

Take charge of your own life.

Tbh, if you are asking it’s probably been too long and you have your answer but aren’t ready to accept it.
I’m sorry, OP.

How long would you recommend a 35 year old woman who wants kids, and is in a loving wait for a proposal before moving on?