Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:29     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
Sounds like you raised a gentleman OP, you should be proud!
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:29     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
JFC it is 2024

If your DS or DD are dating yes the female pays as well. Anyone who thinks otherwise is ridiculous
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:28     Subject: Re:Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
I’ve got sons (and a daughter). IME there is no expectation when it comes to payment.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:22     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He should pay but she should also be suggesting free or low cost things to do and places to eat. She should always be appreciative no matter the cost. If she’s constantly wanting a lobster dinner and gets mad if he suggests ramen noodles then she’s a moocher and he needs to drop her.


What no!

He should not pay all the time.

GF can contribute.

This is absurd.


She can contribute by buying groceries and cooking him dinner several nights a week.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:20     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
Anonymous wrote:Hasn't that always been the norm?


No there is no reason why GF can not pay for things as well.

Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:19     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
Anonymous wrote:He should pay but she should also be suggesting free or low cost things to do and places to eat. She should always be appreciative no matter the cost. If she’s constantly wanting a lobster dinner and gets mad if he suggests ramen noodles then she’s a moocher and he needs to drop her.


What no!

He should not pay all the time.

GF can contribute.

This is absurd.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:18     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
Anonymous wrote:I am sort of out of touch maybe, but I feel when you're dating in college or in your twenties you split the expenses, may not always. DS 21 in college says he has to pay every time taking GF out also in college, for everything. They both do service jobs and internships. He says that's how it is and if you don't then you're considered a bad guy, says all his friends do too. What's the norm these days.


No it is not.

Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:17     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
This is how it was when I was in college in the mid 2000s. Just for a historical perspective.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:15     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
Anonymous wrote:He should pay but she should also be suggesting free or low cost things to do and places to eat. She should always be appreciative no matter the cost. If she’s constantly wanting a lobster dinner and gets mad if he suggests ramen noodles then she’s a moocher and he needs to drop her.


OP here. That's not the case. She's not demanding.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:13     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
I would hope so.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:12     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
He should pay but she should also be suggesting free or low cost things to do and places to eat. She should always be appreciative no matter the cost. If she’s constantly wanting a lobster dinner and gets mad if he suggests ramen noodles then she’s a moocher and he needs to drop her.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:09     Subject: Re:Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
No, it’s not the norm.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 20:08     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
Hasn't that always been the norm?
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 19:38     Subject: Re:Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
Well, guys end up earning more and spend less on clothes and dry cleaning and hair cuts. So it works out in the end.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2024 19:37     Subject: Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
I am sort of out of touch maybe, but I feel when you're dating in college or in your twenties you split the expenses, may not always. DS 21 in college says he has to pay every time taking GF out also in college, for everything. They both do service jobs and internships. He says that's how it is and if you don't then you're considered a bad guy, says all his friends do too. What's the norm these days.