Anonymous wrote:My DH is a tax lawyer but hadn't filed his taxes for years when we were dating. I do them every year. He does other things well.

WTF. But he’s a TAX LAWYER.

Anonymous wrote:My brother is a building and doesn't fix anything.

I'm a computer engineer but can't figure out most things on my phone.

You are setting up tests and seeing if he will fail. You seem really immature and perhaps lack emotional intelligence

If he failed your immature test dump him, be sad and find someone to pass all your tests.

+1 My DH provides Tier 3 IT support services. Yet, he couldn't figure our why our home printer/scanner would only print from his laptop. We ended up getting a new one which will print from all laptops and phones in our house.

I can't tell you the number of times he uses Google to figure something out - even though he's highly successful in his work AND likes it.

Anonymous wrote:I wasn’t testing him, I really thought he’d be able to help bc it’s his area. He loves helping with things and loves to be asked.

DP Yes, you were testing him and he didn't pass. He's never going to meet the "competency" tests you've made up. Do him a favor and move on.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sad bcbb b I really love him bc and want him to be the one. But he has to be competent for it to work.

It doesn’t sound like you’re very competent. So maybe you guys are a good match. Or, you sound completely irrational and time to let them go so he can find a better mate.

He's rethinking being with you. He's probably realizing you're insane.

Anonymous wrote:I wasn’t testing him, I really thought he’d be able to help bc it’s his area. He loves helping with things and loves to be asked.

So because he couldn't do it you're considering dumping a guy you love? You are a huge red flag and I hope this guy gets away from you

I wasn’t testing him, I really thought he’d be able to help bc it’s his area. He loves helping with things and loves to be asked.

Let me guess, he works in IT and you assume that means he can do anything and everything related to tech.

Anonymous wrote:My DH is a tax lawyer but hadn't filed his taxes for years when we were dating. I do them every year. He does other things well.

Hope he doesn’t work for the government—that could be a huge issue.

—gov tax lawyer

Do him a favor and dump him. You seem nuts

My brother is a building and doesn't fix anything.

I'm a computer engineer but can't figure out most things on my phone.

You are setting up tests and seeing if he will fail. You seem really immature and perhaps lack emotional intelligence

If he failed your immature test dump him, be sad and find someone to pass all your tests.

My DH is a tax lawyer but hadn't filed his taxes for years when we were dating. I do them every year. He does other things well.

I’m sad bcbb b I really love him bc and want him to be the one. But he has to be competent for it to work.

Getting sad about it is a strange and unproductive reaction. Deciding he’s not for you would make sense. Deciding these things are small, funny blips in an otherwise good relationship would also make sense.

Dating great guy but twice I have asked him to help me with something that is squarely in his field of expertise and both times he tried but failed to fix the problem. His attempt to fix consisted of googling the answer online. This makes me sad like I question how good he really is at his job. I’ve also been telling him since January that it’s important to me that we take a trip or travel together this summer and he hasn’t even given me dates yet and now it’s last minute and options are limited (and still no dates given). I’ve told him that if budget is an issue we can stay domestic/modest but it’s very important I get to take a summer break with him. He loves me that’s not the issue. I wonder if he’s really as competent as I thought and am sad about it.