I don't know, I think that I would really insist my kid finish the commitment of playing. It's not the money I'm paying but unless she had a damn good reason for quitting, I wouldn't let her just out of teaching her that a commitment is just that. I get why folks feel that a club sport in the large scheme of things isn't a priority and I agree but from a perspective of appreciating what a commitment is at a certain age, I do think it's a good lesson.

Much like the lessons of losing in sports - I think it's a great thing to have happen because nothing about education and how we bring our kids up has to do with loss. We always preach success and never letting them fail but the one thing that you will find in life is we all have bad days. How you feel and how you react to those bad days will determine how many more you have

DD got so sick of losing she quit and joined another club and that to me is fine because ultimately, she learned what losing felt like and wasn't scared to work her way up the club levels even though it was a much larger and stronger club she left. We never quit mid season. We just started low on a different club. That she hated losing and was happy to start at the bottom really taught her what winning might look like. She ended up working her way up and loved that even though she wasn't on a top team, she earned every win and and every promotion. And this is why I shell out the cash and spend my weekends doing travel when I much rather be doing something else!

Are you considering this current year (23/24 season) or next? PPA policy was that you were just committed to paying the fees for the existing season (split into fall, winter, spring, summer) but looks like for next year they changed it to match the rest of the clubs and claim you have to pay for the rest of the year or they won’t release your card — which may not matter if you’re not trying to switch to another club.

My son did this, sort of. He wanted to do a different sport at his high school, and wasn't having fun at soccer any more. He talked to the coach about his decision, and the coach asked if he would be willing to finish out games for the season, in addition to doing one practice per week with an older age group where the time didn't conflict with his HS sport. TBH, he didn't really want to, but agreed to it. The issue was not that he was such an amazing player, but that the team was sort of leanly staffed and they didn't have another player they wanted to move up a team. He knew he was done, but it worked out ok to finish out the season this way.


So many are comfortable teaching your kids to be unreliable, teaching them to be spoiled quitters, teaching them they are entitled

Yes, if you no longer want to do a mid level $2K a year travel soccer team, you are morally compelled to stick with it. F your own happiness and mental health, it is travel ball above all.

Greasing the coffers of your neighborhood club so your undersized and mediocre son can play MLSN is not trolling, those them facts boy!

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Anonymous wrote:My son did this, sort of. He wanted to do a different sport at his high school, and wasn't having fun at soccer any more. He talked to the coach about his decision, and the coach asked if he would be willing to finish out games for the season, in addition to doing one practice per week with an older age group where the time didn't conflict with his HS sport. TBH, he didn't really want to, but agreed to it. The issue was not that he was such an amazing player, but that the team was sort of leanly staffed and they didn't have another player they wanted to move up a team. He knew he was done, but it worked out ok to finish out the season this way.

So many are comfortable teaching your kids to be unreliable, teaching them to be spoiled quitters, teaching them they are entitled

Teaching self-care and self worth is valuable too especially in the women's game were toxic male coaches is the norm. Think I'm trolling then read the Yates report and know I'm very serious

Unfortunately because of the false levels of self importance, perceived privilege and entitlement, the self worth is highly inflated in most cases

So many trying to remove all obstacles and adversity from their DC's existence. Then they enter the real world as dependent adults who can't deal with hurdles.
So they quit and quit and quit

Or worse, they spend their days trolling on internet forums.

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Anonymous wrote:My son did this, sort of. He wanted to do a different sport at his high school, and wasn't having fun at soccer any more. He talked to the coach about his decision, and the coach asked if he would be willing to finish out games for the season, in addition to doing one practice per week with an older age group where the time didn't conflict with his HS sport. TBH, he didn't really want to, but agreed to it. The issue was not that he was such an amazing player, but that the team was sort of leanly staffed and they didn't have another player they wanted to move up a team. He knew he was done, but it worked out ok to finish out the season this way.

So many are comfortable teaching your kids to be unreliable, teaching them to be spoiled quitters, teaching them they are entitled

Teaching self-care and self worth is valuable too especially in the women's game were toxic male coaches is the norm. Think I'm trolling then read the Yates report and know I'm very serious

Unfortunately because of the false levels of self importance, perceived privilege and entitlement, the self worth is highly inflated in most cases

So many trying to remove all obstacles and adversity from their DC's existence. Then they enter the real world as dependent adults who can't deal with hurdles.
So they quit and quit and quit

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Anonymous wrote:My son did this, sort of. He wanted to do a different sport at his high school, and wasn't having fun at soccer any more. He talked to the coach about his decision, and the coach asked if he would be willing to finish out games for the season, in addition to doing one practice per week with an older age group where the time didn't conflict with his HS sport. TBH, he didn't really want to, but agreed to it. The issue was not that he was such an amazing player, but that the team was sort of leanly staffed and they didn't have another player they wanted to move up a team. He knew he was done, but it worked out ok to finish out the season this way.

So many are comfortable teaching your kids to be unreliable, teaching them to be spoiled quitters, teaching them they are entitled

Teaching self-care and self worth is valuable too especially in the women's game were toxic male coaches is the norm. Think I'm trolling then read the Yates report and know I'm very serious

Sometimes I think club size and roster numbers factor into it. We are with a smaller Club with 2 teams per age group on the lean side with roster numbers. Two players who are on financial assistance seem skip out on half the practices and games… but this is year 2 and the club just keeps inviting them back to play on the 2nd team. I don’t thank that would fly if we had a lot more players. Not the same thing exactly, but numbers could factor in.

Anonymous wrote:Curious if anyone has tried to leave a team mid year - not to play on another club team, but either for time commitment reasons or playing on a HS team. I see that they say you sign up for the year but wondering if that’s enforced. (This is for PPA)

this looks bad. make them go and finish out the season.

Anonymous wrote:My son did this, sort of. He wanted to do a different sport at his high school, and wasn't having fun at soccer any more. He talked to the coach about his decision, and the coach asked if he would be willing to finish out games for the season, in addition to doing one practice per week with an older age group where the time didn't conflict with his HS sport. TBH, he didn't really want to, but agreed to it. The issue was not that he was such an amazing player, but that the team was sort of leanly staffed and they didn't have another player they wanted to move up a team. He knew he was done, but it worked out ok to finish out the season this way.

So many are comfortable teaching your kids to be unreliable, teaching them to be spoiled quitters, teaching them they are entitled

My son did this, sort of. He wanted to do a different sport at his high school, and wasn't having fun at soccer any more. He talked to the coach about his decision, and the coach asked if he would be willing to finish out games for the season, in addition to doing one practice per week with an older age group where the time didn't conflict with his HS sport. TBH, he didn't really want to, but agreed to it. The issue was not that he was such an amazing player, but that the team was sort of leanly staffed and they didn't have another player they wanted to move up a team. He knew he was done, but it worked out ok to finish out the season this way.

As long as you are paid up, and good for you annual fee moving forward, no club is going to care too much as long as your player is a contributor on the field. Its the bench players who pull stunts iike not showing up and not paying who get blacklisted becaue their full pay fee just isnt worth the headaches nor parent emails that come with these delusional parent types. Clubs give up on kids mid-year every year, by adding new players, or making judgements early for the next year's roster. So again as long as you pay all types of things can occur without much attention every year in club soccer including just leaving a team

Yes. We had players leave the first 3 months of the Fall. I heard they just stop paying, clubs did not try to get the rest of the money back but the player is on the blacklist and will not be able to join again.

Stop showing up if you're willing to part ways - because that's what will happen. And don't think about getting money back. Yes, you can quit anything in life, and there usually are consequences.

Curious if anyone has tried to leave a team mid year - not to play on another club team, but either for time commitment reasons or playing on a HS team. I see that they say you sign up for the year but wondering if that’s enforced. (This is for PPA)