Anonymous
05/12/2024 10:23
Subject: Quick question about writing a condolence letter
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is fine and in fact it is really the perfect thing to say. Also, it’s “may his memory be for a blessing.”
Ah, thank you, I didn’t know that. I didn’t catch the “for” within the phrase.
No we don’t say the “for”, google it. I have never seen it that way.
Anonymous
05/12/2024 10:16
Subject: Re:Quick question about writing a condolence letter
It's probably not "problematic" but, as a pp wrote, it can be trite and they've probably heard it dozens of times already.
Maybe listing the ways his memory is/will be a blessing to you would be more meaningful? "His memory is a blessing to me. I'll never forget when I really needed help with _______ and he was right there to support me. Or that time __________ when he made me laugh so hard I cried." Specific details mean more than platitudes, IME.
Maybe listing the ways his memory is/will be a blessing to you would be more meaningful? "His memory is a blessing to me. I'll never forget when I really needed help with _______ and he was right there to support me. Or that time __________ when he made me laugh so hard I cried." Specific details mean more than platitudes, IME.
Anonymous
05/11/2024 21:10
Subject: Quick question about writing a condolence letter
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is fine and in fact it is really the perfect thing to say. Also, it’s “may his memory be for a blessing.”
Ah, thank you, I didn’t know that. I didn’t catch the “for” within the phrase.
No problem. I think his parents will be so touched to read your memories with him. It is a lovely idea.
Anonymous
05/11/2024 21:09
Subject: Re:Quick question about writing a condolence letter
I would google it. I seem to remember there are things you should and shouldn't say or do.
https://guttermansinc.com/jewish-mourning-customs-expressing-your-sympathy/
https://guttermansinc.com/jewish-mourning-customs-expressing-your-sympathy/
Anonymous
05/11/2024 21:07
Subject: Quick question about writing a condolence letter
Anonymous wrote:It is fine and in fact it is really the perfect thing to say. Also, it’s “may his memory be for a blessing.”
Ah, thank you, I didn’t know that. I didn’t catch the “for” within the phrase.
Anonymous
05/11/2024 21:02
Subject: Quick question about writing a condolence letter
It is fine and in fact it is really the perfect thing to say. Also, it’s “may his memory be for a blessing.”
Anonymous
05/11/2024 21:01
Subject: Quick question about writing a condolence letter
I’m Jewish and think it’s fine but trite.
Anonymous
05/11/2024 20:59
Subject: Quick question about writing a condolence letter
I think it’s fine.
Anonymous
05/11/2024 20:57
Subject: Quick question about writing a condolence letter
A friend from my youth has passed away, and I want to write a note to his family with some nice memories of our friendship. He was Jewish, as is his family.
I am aware of the phrase, “May his memory be a blessing”. A number of my friends who are Jewish used the phrase in notes of condolence when my parents died and I thought it was a very beautiful and very comforting thing to hear when I was grieving.
Is it okay for me to use this phrase when I write to the family of my friend? Or would it be inappropriate to use it as I am not Jewish?
I am aware of the phrase, “May his memory be a blessing”. A number of my friends who are Jewish used the phrase in notes of condolence when my parents died and I thought it was a very beautiful and very comforting thing to hear when I was grieving.
Is it okay for me to use this phrase when I write to the family of my friend? Or would it be inappropriate to use it as I am not Jewish?