Thanks 50yo man - good advice - though wondering what not being a total man means!

50 year old man here. I’ve been in two amazing LTRs through OLD, have met a ton of interesting ladies, and have generally had fun while doing it (all while not being a total man ho) True, at first, it was a hit to my ego, but once I got some good pics and a decent summary, things really opened up for me so to speak. Just spend a little time getting to know someone up front. I found that if I was able to easily banter and connect with someone via text, then 9 times out of 10 the date went well.

OP here thanks for all the posts! Doesn't sound promising though so I am guessing not many success stories out there. Will take both pieces of advice - try Bumble with filters, and just enjoy myself!

OLD is biased towards superficiality?

🤔 First I’m hearing of this.

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Anonymous wrote:Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50?

+1. The reality is that about 90% of men over 50 are not fit, balding, have erectile issues etc. and women usually are happy to consider these things relatively unimportant.

Those men can date the fat women.

Men and women that take care of themselves and are in good shape will swipe left on a dating app for people that might consider in real life.

OP I have some friends who have dated in their 50s with meh to very good results, so I think there is some hope but I wouldn’t stake my happiness on it.

This is such a great time of life to explore yourself, and all the things that interest you. If you meet someone via a shared experiential interest like hiking or kayaking or birding or ballroom dancing etc., that would be a very nice bonus but in the meantime you’re doing an activity that you love which leaves you feeling good either way.

Also if you haven’t got one already, get a dog.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50?

+1. The reality is that about 90% of men over 50 are not fit, balding, have erectile issues etc. and women usually are happy to consider these things relatively unimportant.

I’m a 45 year old married woman, so pardon me for budding in, but as a very fit person, I would consider being fit important if I were on the market. I genuinely don’t mind baldness, and erectile issues can usually be dealt with.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50?

+1. The reality is that about 90% of men over 50 are not fit, balding, have erectile issues etc. and women usually are happy to consider these things relatively unimportant.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50?

He means "don't be fat."

Yes, that's HUGE. No pun intended.

50YO woman here (fit, attractive, well educated, financially secure). I think it really depends if you can keep your expectations low and not take it personally. I dont get a ton of likes from people I would consider dating, and I dont have a great response rate when I reach out first, and it can be frustrating to match and have messages with someone that seems promising just peter out - so the whole thing can be demoralizing. But I intentionally set tight filters so I have to keep that in mind, and I also met someone I like recently.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50?

OP here, interesting reactions from you both. To the guy - nice to hear that being in shape as a 54yo that’s had 3 kids (meaning as good as i can get it without surgery) is valued. To the respondent, yes, agree ‘huge’ seems a bit daunting. Yet I imagine it’s also pretty honest. Hopefully the guy is looking for more than that. ;-0

Anonymous wrote:Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50?

Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

(shrug) good luck meeting anyone any other way.

Title says it all…anyone have good/bad experiences, and any recommendations on which sites are/are not good?
Divorced, good job, grown kids, good shape, well presented.