Anonymous wrote:We recently had my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah. It does not matter. And while it’s customary to bring gifts, some of the kids coming alone didn’t; neither I nor my child cared.

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Anonymous wrote:Gifts are optional. It is not a gift grab but a rite of passage.

I would never attend and not give a gift. Tacky.

So it is a gift grab.

Apparently you going to a party is a food and drink and music grab.

It's not about the party, people.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gifts are optional. It is not a gift grab but a rite of passage.

I would never attend and not give a gift. Tacky.

So it is a gift grab.

Apparently you going to a party is a food and drink and music grab.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gifts are optional. It is not a gift grab but a rite of passage.

I would never attend and not give a gift. Tacky.

Are you Jewish?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gifts are optional. It is not a gift grab but a rite of passage.

I would never attend and not give a gift. Tacky.

So it is a gift grab.

Anonymous wrote:Gifts are optional. It is not a gift grab but a rite of passage.

I would never attend and not give a gift. Tacky.

Gifts are optional. It is not a gift grab but a rite of passage.

Give a check inside a card inside a sealed envelope at the end of the reception - not in the temple.

Anonymous wrote:We recently had my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah. It does not matter. And while it’s customary to bring gifts, some of the kids coming alone didn’t; neither I nor my child cared.

This

I wrote the check to the child. I had asked the mom beforehand if she had her own bank account.

bring the card to the party, not to the service. i always write a check

If the party is not just after the service, I might bring it to the party where there will likely be a gift table and spot for cards.

We recently had my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah. It does not matter. And while it’s customary to bring gifts, some of the kids coming alone didn’t; neither I nor my child cared.

You are overthinking it. My kid got all forms, cash (new bills, old bills, coins!!) and checks. It doesn’t matter.

Hello! I’ve been reading through the past posts on how much to give as a gift and every post has been very helpful in deciding how much we give.
My question is how to present the gift. My daughter will bring a card to the service, but is it better to give cash or a check? We can do either - but which one is preferred?
If cash, better big bills or smaller bills or does it matter? If we give $54, should we do a $50 and four $1s or two $20s, one $10 and four $1s.
I know it probably doesn’t matter, but hoping to get some feedback in case. Thanks!