Way to many variables. I know someone that wants full custody of kids, and maybe sees them once every 2 weeks for 3 or 4 hours. His ex does everything she can to keep them from him. He didn't want them to be pawns, so he backed off the pressure but it is killing him.

Your partner may be honest that he is too busy toAnd the STBX understands that, and laid down the rules. That she would take full on full custody and didn't want it to be to much back and forth, create lack of stability.

Ask him what the actual agreement is and the rational behind it. That will give you more insight than a bunch of outside assumptions.

Huge

One of the sexiest things about my husband is what a great dad he is. Second marriage for both and when I met him he had full custody of his kids because they were abandoned by the XW. As I was getting to know him and meeting his friends the theme was what a great guy he was and how he’d really stepped up when the wife left and became the best dad and mom he could be. Just speaks volumes to someone’s character.

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't have time to spend with his kids but he has time to date?

Yeah, no.

This. Bye!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't have time to spend with his kids but he has time to date?

Yeah, no.

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Anonymous wrote:He doesn't have time to spend with his kids but he has time to date?

Yeah, no.

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It depends on your values and what you're looking for from the relationship. For me, yes, that would be a red flag that he's selfish. Parenting teens/tweens is hard work, and he's leaving that job to his ex.

He doesn't have time to spend with his kids but he has time to date?

Yeah, no.

I mean it works if you're a evil stepmother type.

Anonymous wrote:Is it a red flag if a guy is separated but doesn’t seem to see his kids often? He says he works too much to have 50-50 custody. Kids are a tween and teens.

That most men in competitive, senior jobs, married or not.

He just let it blow up his marriage by not being thankful to who was doing everything, or worse, he as an A-hole at home.

Having kids at all is a red flag.

Kids aren’t his thing, his career is.

So as long as you don’t want kids, I don’t see an issue.

Anonymous wrote:Um, yes. Run.

Yes, run. Do not look back.

Um, yes. Run.

Is it a red flag if a guy is separated but doesn’t seem to see his kids often? He says he works too much to have 50-50 custody. Kids are a tween and teens.