Does douchebaggery exist like this in other travel sports? I amazed of how soft a lot of these guys are while strutting around with their chest out barking at 10 year olds. There are good coaches who understand the dynamic, care about developing their players, are decent human beings but they seem so few and far between.

Anonymous wrote:Coaches do that crap all the time, they want loyalty from families and players but yet have no issues kicking your kid to the curb as soon as another player shows up for Tryouts. Power through the rest of the season and tell your kid there is zero pressure so go do some damage with the mins given to you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are going through the same thing and it just goes to show how unprofessional the club is. We paid for a full year and since we told our club (had a meeting with the new coach and he asked us and we were honest) we are leaving my kid has less play time and in positions they don't play in.

We never know where we will end up and i think it speaks volumes on the these clubs. Grown men acting like babies. Boo hoo you had a full year to make us want to stay and give you more money but now that we have commited to another club they act like this. what a disappointment.

The coach is focusing on the kids that want to be developed by him/her
Obviously your DC doesn't want to be.

I'm not original poster but I disagree with the statement above. Because a player is not returning next year, does not give permission for the coach to mistreat him. The family has paid for a year of development so they are staying until that time is up and the coach should continue to deliver the services he is being paid for. That behavior has nothing to do with development, it's mistreatment. He is being paid to focus on all players until the contract is done. Coaches like this should not be involved in the game. These are kids and this guy is giving the kid the impression that all coaches are like this. If anything, this behavior causes kids to stop liking the game. I have no respect for these types of coaches. As a coach your job is to develop players and help them get to the highest level possible. It may not always be with you. You don't own the player. Just be proud that you have played a part in case they do get to the highest level of the game.
- Another Coach.

PP is saying what is, not what it should be

Anonymous wrote:Why did you and DS have to go running bragging early to the coach that you're leaving for greener pastures?

Coaches around here see this FOMO merry-go-round every Spring with players jumping from club to club.
Sounds weird that any coach is acting as you described.

Kids talk and parents gossip. My kid told 2 team mates she was going to another club's tryouts. Within one week, it's seems all the parents and both coaches knew on both our teams. Coaching treatment of my player by one coach has changed, less engaging and left playing time. The other coach won't give the time of day but seems to treat my player no differently.

OMG. That’s child abuse! Not allowing players to drink? That’s ridiculous. I would not only contact the club director but also the social service and local news.

I don’t treat my employees like that when they resign. How can an adult treat young players/children like that?? 😡

We just went through the same thing yesterday. Current coach cut play time for couple of kids who will leave. My DS told me he doesn't care. I am proud of him. Just learn a lesson.

I would finish out the season and make the most of it. Except for one thing -- I would tell my kid to drink water whenever he feels he needs to, and if that becomes an issue then I would get involved myself and handle it with the coach. That's a safety issue in my mind.

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Anonymous wrote:We are going through the same thing and it just goes to show how unprofessional the club is. We paid for a full year and since we told our club (had a meeting with the new coach and he asked us and we were honest) we are leaving my kid has less play time and in positions they don't play in.

We never know where we will end up and i think it speaks volumes on the these clubs. Grown men acting like babies. Boo hoo you had a full year to make us want to stay and give you more money but now that we have commited to another club they act like this. what a disappointment.

The coach is focusing on the kids that want to be developed by him/her
Obviously your DC doesn't want to be.

I'm not original poster but I disagree with the statement above. Because a player is not returning next year, does not give permission for the coach to mistreat him. The family has paid for a year of development so they are staying until that time is up and the coach should continue to deliver the services he is being paid for. That behavior has nothing to do with development, it's mistreatment. He is being paid to focus on all players until the contract is done. Coaches like this should not be involved in the game. These are kids and this guy is giving the kid the impression that all coaches are like this. If anything, this behavior causes kids to stop liking the game. I have no respect for these types of coaches. As a coach your job is to develop players and help them get to the highest level possible. It may not always be with you. You don't own the player. Just be proud that you have played a part in case they do get to the highest level of the game.
- Another Coach.

He should ask his new coach if he can start practicing and guest playing.

I wouldn't let me kid be abused by an adult like this.

Anonymous wrote:Finish the season strong. You never know when you’ll have to interact or need something from this coach again. It also teaches your son to take the high road and finish a commitment he started. Don’t quit. It’s a terrible lesson to your son to quit just because a coach is treating him in a different way now (unless it’s actually abusive, then there is a reason to quit and stand up for himself).

let him finish and channell that for motivation when his on the other side of the pitch

Anonymous wrote:We are going through the same thing and it just goes to show how unprofessional the club is. We paid for a full year and since we told our club (had a meeting with the new coach and he asked us and we were honest) we are leaving my kid has less play time and in positions they don't play in.

We never know where we will end up and i think it speaks volumes on the these clubs. Grown men acting like babies. Boo hoo you had a full year to make us want to stay and give you more money but now that we have commited to another club they act like this. what a disappointment.

The coach is focusing on the kids that want to be developed by him/her
Obviously your DC doesn't want to be.

Coaches do that crap all the time, they want loyalty from families and players but yet have no issues kicking your kid to the curb as soon as another player shows up for Tryouts. Power through the rest of the season and tell your kid there is zero pressure so go do some damage with the mins given to you.

We are going through the same thing and it just goes to show how unprofessional the club is. We paid for a full year and since we told our club (had a meeting with the new coach and he asked us and we were honest) we are leaving my kid has less play time and in positions they don't play in.

We never know where we will end up and i think it speaks volumes on the these clubs. Grown men acting like babies. Boo hoo you had a full year to make us want to stay and give you more money but now that we have commited to another club they act like this. what a disappointment.

Finish the season strong. You never know when you’ll have to interact or need something from this coach again. It also teaches your son to take the high road and finish a commitment he started. Don’t quit. It’s a terrible lesson to your son to quit just because a coach is treating him in a different way now (unless it’s actually abusive, then there is a reason to quit and stand up for himself).

Why did you and DS have to go running bragging early to the coach that you're leaving for greener pastures?

Coaches around here see this FOMO merry-go-round every Spring with players jumping from club to club.
Sounds weird that any coach is acting as you described.

My DS is a top two player on his team, but we wanted to see other options (if any). After a few tryouts he received an offer from a strong club with a good coach (asked around). We decided to accept the offer. Now, DS is telling us his coach is treating him different. I can understand not focusing on a player who's leaving, but the treatment we're being told is more personal (not allowing time to warm up, not allowing him to drink water during a sub (yes, you read that correct), and a few other items.

I know the coach isn't happy DS is leaving, but it's best for him and his development. I find it sad to see this type of behavior from a coach (I am a coach myself for another sport). I've always been a parent that teaches a child to finish what you started. But, I'm having second thoughts on this one. There's only a few more games remaining in the season and our DS has a lot of homework/projects due soon.

I want to hear from parents in similar situations. Should we reel it back and not be as active (my DS has never missed a practice or game since August) or finish the season strong. I can tell my DS is not happy with how he's being targeted/treated.