Anonymous wrote:Maybe help with tracking diapers and feedings. There are very good apps out there.
Youre doing well with making sure she has water and meals. Make sure she's getting a shower in
Anonymous wrote:Are you taking care of the pets? Are you doing all the laundry? Making and cleaning up from the meals? Handling mail and bills? Writing thank you notes for baby gifts you've gotten? Get the baby on your health insurance? Update your will to account for the baby? Restock the diaper changing station(s)?
Anonymous wrote:Take extra night shifts, or do them together. Be the one going downstairs preparing and warming the bottles. She probably wants to minimize lifting anything heavy yet, so be the one putting the baby in the carseat and carrying to the pediatrician etc. Along with your families, coordinate nutritious, healthy, and filling meals so she doesn’t have to deal with the menu planning. Be ready to offer to help with research - if she decides she wants postpartum doula, lactation consultant, etc. Be flexible and ready to eat at weird hours, to huddle over an iPad with Netflix, just keep things going.
CONGRATS! You’re at such an advantage that you can WFH and be present for your child, and you are already a great dad and partner!!!
Anonymous wrote:Let her focus on recovery and the baby and you handle everything else. Don't hover over her. Also, family help can be good but too much of it can be annoying.
Anonymous wrote:Check in and see if she WANTS the family coming over as much as they are. I was really not up for visitors and would have preferred it just be DH and I for the first month or so.
If your wife is nursing, bring her water or coconut water each time she sits down to nurse. Offer to burp him. Keep the kitchen clean, keep the laundry moving. If she's nursing, don't push her to pump. Let her decide how the baby should be fed.
Don't view yourself as someone who helps with the baby - that implies it's the mom's job. It's both your jobs. You can get him up, dressed, bathed, etc. You can take him for a walk each morning outside.