Anonymous wrote:I actually wish people talked about money more! I wouldn't call myself "new money", but I grew up very poor so what I have now is quite different. One of my older friends mentioned she spend a ton on a cruise. I've never been on a cruise, so I asked how much is that? And she wouldn't say. I was just curious what someone thinks "a ton" for a cruise is, what you get for that, is it worth it, etc. I wasn't trying to pry, she brought it up, but then got all cagey about it.
Idk, dont bring it up if you dont want to talk about I guess? But some people are fine to talk about it with. I like hearing peoples wins and if you have $30k (minimum, I googled it after haha) to blow on a cruise that sounds AMAZING!
That said, DH absolutely did not want his family knowing how we are doing. That's more because he thinks they will ask for money/want support lol.
Anonymous wrote:Do you talk about your money? Show your money? Buy flashy things?
Who in your family or friends knows how much you make or how much you have? Who do you talk bonuses with? Or stock investments?
My SIL outright asks my DH how much we make???! Nunya. Nunya F**cking Business! I tell him to deflect or answer vaguely (Not as much as last year haha) or something like that. I think it’s bc they have a little money now at 55 so they like to drop a line like We spent 10K on our trip to Hawaii, can you believe it?!Do people new to money do this on the regular?
Anonymous wrote:My parents were reasonably well educated but we were not well off. But it was still an obvious (if unspoken) rule that talking about money was distasteful. I think it's just more common now, but I still find it shocking.
In the past week I have been asked:
-How much I paid for some property I just bought.
-Did I finance my wife's care?
-What is the interest rate?
I am slightly stunned each time. My wife says I'm the snob, not them, they're just making conversation. I guess so.
Anonymous wrote:I actually wish people talked about money more! I wouldn't call myself "new money", but I grew up very poor so what I have now is quite different. One of my older friends mentioned she spend a ton on a cruise. I've never been on a cruise, so I asked how much is that? And she wouldn't say. I was just curious what someone thinks "a ton" for a cruise is, what you get for that, is it worth it, etc. I wasn't trying to pry, she brought it up, but then got all cagey about it.
Idk, dont bring it up if you dont want to talk about I guess? But some people are fine to talk about it with. I like hearing peoples wins and if you have $30k (minimum, I googled it after haha) to blow on a cruise that sounds AMAZING!
That said, DH absolutely did not want his family knowing how we are doing. That's more because he thinks they will ask for money/want support lol.
Anonymous wrote:Asking about whether you financed a car and interest rate is just them getting some data point on the current market. It's normal conversation.
Sounds like you started it by telling ppl about your recent purchases and they just asked follow up questions.
Anonymous wrote:Do you talk about your money? Show your money? Buy flashy things?
Who in your family or friends knows how much you make or how much you have? Who do you talk bonuses with? Or stock investments?
My SIL outright asks my DH how much we make???! Nunya. Nunya F**cking Business! I tell him to deflect or answer vaguely (Not as much as last year haha) or something like that. I think it’s bc they have a little money now at 55 so they like to drop a line like We spent 10K on our trip to Hawaii, can you believe it?!Do people new to money do this on the regular?