Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 11:06     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
Anonymous wrote:I am the dud. Currently engaged to someone who doesn’t realize it. I work at a low level in a prestigious profession.


So step it up if you acknowledge this as a weakness. Otherwise get a prenup because divorce will follow.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 11:05     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way you are referring to your spouse shows a total lack of respect, it’s doesn’t bode well for your marriage. I am not defending them, I am sure they have their faults but the words we use are indicative of what our thought are.


It’s also disrespectful to leave messes for others in your home, not respond to emails, not greet people, not do what you agreed to do.

And after a pattern of that disrespect and selfishness, people don’t respect you nor speak favorably of you.

Funny how that works.


Then divorce him (and I am not one of those women on here always calling for divorce). If you are so put off by him, grow up and leave. JFC.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 11:04     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
Divorce her.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 11:03     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
Anonymous wrote:I am the dud. Currently engaged to someone who doesn’t realize it. I work at a low level in a prestigious profession.


You're a GP MD?

Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 10:57     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
I am the dud. Currently engaged to someone who doesn’t realize it. I work at a low level in a prestigious profession.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 09:12     Subject: When you’re married to a dud
If this is not how he has always been, you don't make that clear...sounds like mental health issues, like depression. How long has he been like this? Any other life circumstances happening? You don't sound very compassionate, unless you have explored the cause of the behavior already?
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 00:37     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way you are referring to your spouse shows a total lack of respect, it’s doesn’t bode well for your marriage. I am not defending them, I am sure they have their faults but the words we use are indicative of what our thought are.


It’s also disrespectful to leave messes for others in your home, not respond to emails, not greet people, not do what you agreed to do.

And after a pattern of that disrespect and selfishness, people don’t respect you nor speak favorably of you.

Funny how that works.


Indeed - a dud begets a dud, a wet blanket begets a wet blanket...
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 00:35     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
Anonymous wrote:What you think is dully predictable, other people might consider steady and reliable. What do you want, exactly? More date nights or "surprise" vacations and don't want to ask for them, but expect your spouse to read your mind? Or do you just mean you want new things sexually but expect your spouse to read your mind? Asking seriously because your post could mean anything or nothing.


Predictably unreliable ain't flattering. Neither is predictably absent minded or predictably blaming others for your shortcomings.

Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 00:34     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
Anonymous wrote:The way you are referring to your spouse shows a total lack of respect, it’s doesn’t bode well for your marriage. I am not defending them, I am sure they have their faults but the words we use are indicative of what our thought are.


It’s also disrespectful to leave messes for others in your home, not respond to emails, not greet people, not do what you agreed to do.

And after a pattern of that disrespect and selfishness, people don’t respect you nor speak favorably of you.

Funny how that works.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 00:08     Subject: When you’re married to a dud
Anonymous wrote:Just a wet blanket. He has become so predictable. What a turn off.


Unless it was a forced marriage when you were a minor, you are responsible for not settling for duds.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2024 00:00     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
The way you are referring to your spouse shows a total lack of respect, it’s doesn’t bode well for your marriage. I am not defending them, I am sure they have their faults but the words we use are indicative of what our thought are.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 23:39     Subject: Re:When you’re married to a dud
What you think is dully predictable, other people might consider steady and reliable. What do you want, exactly? More date nights or "surprise" vacations and don't want to ask for them, but expect your spouse to read your mind? Or do you just mean you want new things sexually but expect your spouse to read your mind? Asking seriously because your post could mean anything or nothing.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 22:52     Subject: When you’re married to a dud
Call me.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 22:51     Subject: When you’re married to a dud
Your post is dud - how about some effort?
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 22:50     Subject: When you’re married to a dud
Just a wet blanket. He has become so predictable. What a turn off.