Anonymous
04/28/2024 09:01
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Have to train yourself to be fearless. Try podcasts on this, being relentless
Anonymous
04/27/2024 23:55
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
I’m really happy for you! It sounds lovely. And you are not naive or dumb, you have both been around for long enough to recognize when things are good or bad.
You do sound anxious, so check out the resources others have posted…you may need to retrain your brain that this is what a healthy relationship looks like.
How long have you 2 been dating?
You do sound anxious, so check out the resources others have posted…you may need to retrain your brain that this is what a healthy relationship looks like.
How long have you 2 been dating?
Anonymous
04/27/2024 23:36
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Anonymous wrote:OP here. To answer some questions…..he loves me also. I don’t think he feels fear though. he seems to be very comfortable and grounded in the relationship.
In terms of ceding power, we don’t operate like that. The lack of power dynamics is new to me. It’s like we both try to out love the other. There is no trying to have the upper hand in a negative way.
I’m 38 and he’s 47. The thought of him dying crosses my mind sometimes and that would really suck. I hope we get to spend many decades together.
You sound naive. Have you ever been in a relationship with a man that lasted longer than a year?
Anonymous
04/27/2024 19:02
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Anonymous wrote:I am honestly surprised as a 38 years old woman you feel this way. Usually around this age women are so independent and often disgusted with men.
I’m. It surprised. I was a late bloomer too.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 17:24
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
I am honestly surprised as a 38 years old woman you feel this way. Usually around this age women are so independent and often disgusted with men.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 16:57
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Anonymous wrote:Generally speaking I tend to be a little emotionally guarded. I date guys who are a bit guarded as well.
My current boyfriend wears his heart on his sleeve. I am completely in love with him. It feels so good to be fully open hearted with him.
I’m also noticing I’m scared sh*tless. I often think “I never want to be without this man. I hope we never breakup.” The thought of things not working out stresses me out sometimes. It’s like the positive emotions are a little overwhelming for me. Is this completely abnormal?
Its called honeymoon period of love.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 16:03
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Aw, that’s wonderful, OP. Just try to be in the moment and enjoy it. None of us can predict the future. No matter what happens, you will be okay. The alternative is leaving the relationship and living a safe, risk-free life and I don’t think that’s really on the table, is it?
Anonymous
04/27/2024 14:41
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
OP here. To answer some questions…..he loves me also. I don’t think he feels fear though. he seems to be very comfortable and grounded in the relationship.
In terms of ceding power, we don’t operate like that. The lack of power dynamics is new to me. It’s like we both try to out love the other. There is no trying to have the upper hand in a negative way.
I’m 38 and he’s 47. The thought of him dying crosses my mind sometimes and that would really suck. I hope we get to spend many decades together.
In terms of ceding power, we don’t operate like that. The lack of power dynamics is new to me. It’s like we both try to out love the other. There is no trying to have the upper hand in a negative way.
I’m 38 and he’s 47. The thought of him dying crosses my mind sometimes and that would really suck. I hope we get to spend many decades together.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 14:41
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Listen to the “love life” podcast, they have great podcasts on anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, etc. I have been happily married for a decade but find this podcast fascinating and I have learned a ton about how people relate to each other in different ways.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 14:06
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Well even if you stay in love, he could die, so you need to learn to deal with some level of uncertainty.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 14:02
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
You need to get over it or else you will effectively cede all power in the relationship.
Enjoy the fun positive ride, but mentally prepare yourself that the relationship could at any time.
If you want to get married, be totally honest and communicate that to be sure you are on the same page.
Enjoy the fun positive ride, but mentally prepare yourself that the relationship could at any time.
If you want to get married, be totally honest and communicate that to be sure you are on the same page.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 13:18
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
It’s totally normal and if you have found someone amazing. Does he feel the same? How old are you both? Try not to worry about the future. It’s completely impossible to predict or control it.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 10:27
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Divorce
Anonymous
04/27/2024 09:33
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Sounds like you have an anxious attachment type. There are some great resources to help with that...there's nothing wrong with you FWIW 
https://www.attachmentproject.com/anxious-attachment-relationships/#:~:text=Someone%20with%20an%20anxious%20attachment%20style%20has%20an%20intense%20fear,occurring%20%E2%80%93%20their%20partner%20leaving%20them.
https://www.attachmentproject.com/anxious-attachment-relationships/#:~:text=Someone%20with%20an%20anxious%20attachment%20style%20has%20an%20intense%20fear,occurring%20%E2%80%93%20their%20partner%20leaving%20them.
Anonymous
04/27/2024 09:24
Subject: Afraid of losing BF
Generally speaking I tend to be a little emotionally guarded. I date guys who are a bit guarded as well.
My current boyfriend wears his heart on his sleeve. I am completely in love with him. It feels so good to be fully open hearted with him.
I’m also noticing I’m scared sh*tless. I often think “I never want to be without this man. I hope we never breakup.” The thought of things not working out stresses me out sometimes. It’s like the positive emotions are a little overwhelming for me. Is this completely abnormal?
My current boyfriend wears his heart on his sleeve. I am completely in love with him. It feels so good to be fully open hearted with him.
I’m also noticing I’m scared sh*tless. I often think “I never want to be without this man. I hope we never breakup.” The thought of things not working out stresses me out sometimes. It’s like the positive emotions are a little overwhelming for me. Is this completely abnormal?