DS is an awesome kid who has always been incredibly smart yet academically underachieving from middle school onward. (IQ 95%+ percentile, standardized test scores 99%, but B grades in a very hard private school.) His teachers have been telling us for a decade that he underperformed. We did testing with Stixrud when he was 14, and he didn't have enough markers to get formally diagnosed with ADHD, but got a diagnoses of Otherwise Unspecified Attention Deficit Disorder. He didn't want to ask for special accommodations and we never did.
Fast-forward 5 1/2 years to his sophomore year in college and he is telling us that he feels like he is really struggling with attention and that he thinks, comparing notes with college friends who have ADHD, that it might not be a "personal moral failing" as he's been internalizing for a very long time but ADHD. He wants to get tested - and we are looking for a referral for someone who would be good with a young adult. Looking back at his earlier testing, I am struck by the fact that because he passed certain average baselines, he didn't get formally diagnosed. I'm sure I'm framing this well, but we're looking for someone who can be nuanced - i.e., just because my kid can do a task at the 25% percentile of all people doesn't mean that he's not affected by something that he clearly feels himself to be affected by.
Thanks for any advice and referrals. And if this is better posted in another forum, please let me know.