Anonymous wrote:The biggest difference between my married and nonmarried female friends: the ones who are single didn't want to settle for someone mediocre/with issues.

Yeah no. I'm married and my dh is neither mediocre, nor did he have issues.

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Anonymous wrote:The biggest difference between my married and nonmarried female friends: the ones who are single didn't want to settle for someone mediocre/with issues.

I have a friend who had many suitors but she wanted someone who was better. I think people who remain single are often ones who think they are better than they are. I remember we had a mutual friend who was in love with my friend but he was a comcast guy. That wasn’t good enough. Another guy became a cop. A third ran a small restaurant. She wanted a banker or hedge fund type guy.

This. My friend who desperately wanted to marry and never did was a 5 looking to date/marry men at 8 or 9.

Anonymous wrote:The biggest difference between my married and nonmarried female friends: the ones who are single didn't want to settle for someone mediocre/with issues.

I have a friend who had many suitors but she wanted someone who was better. I think people who remain single are often ones who think they are better than they are. I remember we had a mutual friend who was in love with my friend but he was a comcast guy. That wasn’t good enough. Another guy became a cop. A third ran a small restaurant. She wanted a banker or hedge fund type guy.

Anonymous wrote:Marriage material for a high value man? Pretty, smart, thin, pleasant, good in bed but does not appear trashy or slutty.

Marriage material for a regular man? Attractive and nice.

I don’t think any guy wants to marry someone unattractive and mean or dumb.

My needs are slutty but I don't appear slutty. Am I good?

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Anonymous wrote:Describing someone as marriage material is so gross. It's intrinsically super sexist.

Marriage is all luck and timing. Luck in meeting someone who works (I don't believe in The One) and timing with it being during society's tiny window acceptability for women (age 25-35).

The rest is nonsense.

This is what people say when they’re old, fat, and/or ugly.

Except not. I'm married and have been for a long time. There are several female friends who never married or married very late (no kids) and they were all beautiful, fun, accomplished women. Timing was a big thing. Not settling was another. It certainly wasn't something "wrong" with them.

But your comment says a lot about you and what a POS you are.

A big issue that I see in the women I know: they don't want to get married. That's a deal killer right there.

Marriage material for a high value man? Pretty, smart, thin, pleasant, good in bed but does not appear trashy or slutty.

Marriage material for a regular man? Attractive and nice.

I don’t think any guy wants to marry someone unattractive and mean or dumb.

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Too many loser males.

What kind of marriage? With whom? For what purpose?

The biggest difference between my married and nonmarried female friends: the ones who are single didn't want to settle for someone mediocre/with issues.

Describing someone as marriage material is so gross. It's intrinsically super sexist.

Marriage is all luck and timing. Luck in meeting someone who works (I don't believe in The One) and timing with it being during society's tiny window acceptability for women (age 25-35).

The rest is nonsense.

Anonymous wrote:There is more than one reason.

+ 1000

No simple answer to this

I have 3 friends who never married (2 from high school and 1 from college, we're in our late 40s) and the thing they have in common is parents who spoiled them. Maybe that's a coincidence but they were all really cute and they're all smart and fun, so there's not a reason unless just bad luck/bad timing.

There is more than one reason.

I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?